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<blockquote data-quote="Kathy813" data-source="post: 48878" data-attributes="member: 1967"><p>Mustang,</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>No, it won't be your fault if he makes choices as an adult that make him sink. That's what detaching is all about. You have given him the tools to grow up and make the right choices. If he doesn't, then that's on him.</p><p></p><p>I agree with JBrain, though. You may be surprised. difficult children are survivors. We had to make our difficult child leave our home and after one false start, she is living in her own apartment, holding down a job, and paying her own bills. Her relationship with us has improved also.</p><p></p><p>I will never go back to living a life where I couldn't leave my purse sitting out in the open or leave a $20 bill sitting on the kitchen counter. It amazes me now that it almost seemed normal to have to be on guard all of the time in my own home. </p><p></p><p>JJJ ~ back to your original topic. I didn't like my difficult child for a long time. I worried that I didn't even love her anymore at the really worst point. I hate to admit this but at times I thought that I hated her. But I didn't ~ I was just so angry at what she was putting us through.</p><p></p><p>Now that she is an adult and living on her own, our relationship has improved and we are relating to each other as adults. I enjoy her company (well, most of the time) and know it will get even better with time.</p><p></p><p>I know that you have a long time ahead of you but the day will come.</p><p></p><p>~Kathy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kathy813, post: 48878, member: 1967"] Mustang, No, it won't be your fault if he makes choices as an adult that make him sink. That's what detaching is all about. You have given him the tools to grow up and make the right choices. If he doesn't, then that's on him. I agree with JBrain, though. You may be surprised. difficult children are survivors. We had to make our difficult child leave our home and after one false start, she is living in her own apartment, holding down a job, and paying her own bills. Her relationship with us has improved also. I will never go back to living a life where I couldn't leave my purse sitting out in the open or leave a $20 bill sitting on the kitchen counter. It amazes me now that it almost seemed normal to have to be on guard all of the time in my own home. JJJ ~ back to your original topic. I didn't like my difficult child for a long time. I worried that I didn't even love her anymore at the really worst point. I hate to admit this but at times I thought that I hated her. But I didn't ~ I was just so angry at what she was putting us through. Now that she is an adult and living on her own, our relationship has improved and we are relating to each other as adults. I enjoy her company (well, most of the time) and know it will get even better with time. I know that you have a long time ahead of you but the day will come. ~Kathy [/QUOTE]
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