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<blockquote data-quote="AllStressedOut" data-source="post: 78692" data-attributes="member: 3837"><p>I wasn't invited to my stepbrothers daughters 1st birthday. When I asked if they were having one, I was told no. So I bought her a gift and set it aside for my daughters birthday, which is a month later. When my stepmother and father arrived, I gave it to her to pass on to my neice. I received a thank you card in the mail, with a picture of my neice on her first birthday. Surrounded by gifts, cake and family, just not me or my brother. I was very hurt.</p><p></p><p>My biodad, stepmom, stepbrother and wife do not come to my difficult children birthday parties. My biodad has made 1 or 2 over the years, but no one else shows up or calls. It breaks my heart. My kids don't notice for the most part, but it still breaks my heart.</p><p></p><p>My neices 2nd birthday was earlier this month, no birthday invite for us again. I will still have a birthday present waiting for my stepmom and bio dad when they arrive in a few weeks for my daughters party.</p><p></p><p>I try to remember that this is the person I am. I love family and I want to show it the way I would want them to show it. So I make sure I do the things that I would like them to do in return. I get birthday cards and either mail them or hold onto them until I see them again, same with gifts. When I get new pics of the kids, I send them out, either via mail or email, to keep them updated.</p><p></p><p>I've also gone off on both stepmom and biodad about how they are, but all it did was make stepmom remove all pictures of me from her house. She has since replaced some, but it won't ever be as much as stepbro or even bio bro.</p><p></p><p>I do resent that I don't get return attention/affection, for me and my kids, but I'm still me. I'm going to do what I would do for anyone in my family and maybe someday I'll be invited to my neices birthday, maybe not. At least I'll know its not because of something I did.</p><p></p><p>You do what makes you feel right. (((hugs))) I know how this makes your mommy heart hurt.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AllStressedOut, post: 78692, member: 3837"] I wasn't invited to my stepbrothers daughters 1st birthday. When I asked if they were having one, I was told no. So I bought her a gift and set it aside for my daughters birthday, which is a month later. When my stepmother and father arrived, I gave it to her to pass on to my neice. I received a thank you card in the mail, with a picture of my neice on her first birthday. Surrounded by gifts, cake and family, just not me or my brother. I was very hurt. My biodad, stepmom, stepbrother and wife do not come to my difficult children birthday parties. My biodad has made 1 or 2 over the years, but no one else shows up or calls. It breaks my heart. My kids don't notice for the most part, but it still breaks my heart. My neices 2nd birthday was earlier this month, no birthday invite for us again. I will still have a birthday present waiting for my stepmom and bio dad when they arrive in a few weeks for my daughters party. I try to remember that this is the person I am. I love family and I want to show it the way I would want them to show it. So I make sure I do the things that I would like them to do in return. I get birthday cards and either mail them or hold onto them until I see them again, same with gifts. When I get new pics of the kids, I send them out, either via mail or email, to keep them updated. I've also gone off on both stepmom and biodad about how they are, but all it did was make stepmom remove all pictures of me from her house. She has since replaced some, but it won't ever be as much as stepbro or even bio bro. I do resent that I don't get return attention/affection, for me and my kids, but I'm still me. I'm going to do what I would do for anyone in my family and maybe someday I'll be invited to my neices birthday, maybe not. At least I'll know its not because of something I did. You do what makes you feel right. (((hugs))) I know how this makes your mommy heart hurt. [/QUOTE]
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