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<blockquote data-quote="Laundress" data-source="post: 574668" data-attributes="member: 15820"><p>Hi MidwestMom - I'm also a midwestmom in mn.</p><p></p><p>husband is in deep denial. I call it lazy parenting. His parents divorced in the 60's at a time when it was uncommon. His dad got full custody (his mom had a nervous breakdown at the time). His dad remarried (great woman, but husband always saw her as the Disney 'stepmom'). He saw his mom twice a month. I believe he's always heard his stepmom in my voice when I try and parent/teach/discipline the kids. He doesn't understand that his stepmom parented him and that his mom was like an aunt. </p><p></p><p>We have two other kids (easy child boy 9, although I can see him taking the path of his brother with our current parenting) and a easy child girl, 5.</p><p></p><p>I'm pretty confident that our 14 yr is not doing drugs - yet, but I'm sure it's coming soon.</p><p></p><p>husband & I had a conversation late last night. He focuses on my yelling. We've gone over this in therapy. The therapists and I have been trying to get through to him that I resort to yelling out of frustration with him not helping and when he finally decides to notice what's going on with the kids, he undermines me in front of the kids. (I don't start out yelling at the kids, it's just the only thing husband hears).</p><p></p><p>Here's an example of a typical night in our house - this just happened two nights ago.</p><p></p><p>Son's been faking being sick all week, so husband has let him stay home all week. husband is constantly checking in with teachers. I say husband should check in once a week at max, not daily. Let Son fail so he can learn to take responsibility. husband got him all set up with homework after dinner - practically holding the pencil for him. Five minutes into this, Son says he wants husband to go to the store and get him Gatorade. husband says, no, we're doing homework. Son calls him a f-ing a-hole several times, stops doing homework. Before the hour was up, not only did husband not address Sons behavior, he took him to the store and bought him 2 Gatorades.</p><p></p><p>Me - livid with husband but unable to communicate with him that night. </p><p></p><p>I told husband yesterday morning how wrong it was. husband says, yeah it might have been wrong, but he did get his homework done. </p><p></p><p>Anyway, I'm at the point where I almost wish my Son would hit me so I have an excuse to call the police and get him out of here. But what I really need to do is figure out how to get my other two kids out of this situation since I'm not confident husband will change.</p><p></p><p>Sorry for the rambling and not knowing the forum abbreviations yet. I'm must glad I found this site.</p><p></p><p>me - 41 stay at home mom, married 15 years to husband - 49, our kids - son 14, son 9, daughter 5</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Laundress, post: 574668, member: 15820"] Hi MidwestMom - I'm also a midwestmom in mn. husband is in deep denial. I call it lazy parenting. His parents divorced in the 60's at a time when it was uncommon. His dad got full custody (his mom had a nervous breakdown at the time). His dad remarried (great woman, but husband always saw her as the Disney 'stepmom'). He saw his mom twice a month. I believe he's always heard his stepmom in my voice when I try and parent/teach/discipline the kids. He doesn't understand that his stepmom parented him and that his mom was like an aunt. We have two other kids (easy child boy 9, although I can see him taking the path of his brother with our current parenting) and a easy child girl, 5. I'm pretty confident that our 14 yr is not doing drugs - yet, but I'm sure it's coming soon. husband & I had a conversation late last night. He focuses on my yelling. We've gone over this in therapy. The therapists and I have been trying to get through to him that I resort to yelling out of frustration with him not helping and when he finally decides to notice what's going on with the kids, he undermines me in front of the kids. (I don't start out yelling at the kids, it's just the only thing husband hears). Here's an example of a typical night in our house - this just happened two nights ago. Son's been faking being sick all week, so husband has let him stay home all week. husband is constantly checking in with teachers. I say husband should check in once a week at max, not daily. Let Son fail so he can learn to take responsibility. husband got him all set up with homework after dinner - practically holding the pencil for him. Five minutes into this, Son says he wants husband to go to the store and get him Gatorade. husband says, no, we're doing homework. Son calls him a f-ing a-hole several times, stops doing homework. Before the hour was up, not only did husband not address Sons behavior, he took him to the store and bought him 2 Gatorades. Me - livid with husband but unable to communicate with him that night. I told husband yesterday morning how wrong it was. husband says, yeah it might have been wrong, but he did get his homework done. Anyway, I'm at the point where I almost wish my Son would hit me so I have an excuse to call the police and get him out of here. But what I really need to do is figure out how to get my other two kids out of this situation since I'm not confident husband will change. Sorry for the rambling and not knowing the forum abbreviations yet. I'm must glad I found this site. me - 41 stay at home mom, married 15 years to husband - 49, our kids - son 14, son 9, daughter 5 [/QUOTE]
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