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<blockquote data-quote="STRESSEDTOMAX" data-source="post: 574705" data-attributes="member: 3512"><p>I can relate to so much that has been said by everybody about this. My situation has been that since difficult child was about two and the ODD behaviors began to show themselves, I get SO frustrated because I feel like I want my husband to partner with me in the discipline but he has an anger management problem so I feel it always goes too far and I step in to "protect" my son from husband anger. Then, my son takes this to mean that I am on his "side" and everything gets worse. My husband's take on this is that he is always put in the role of "the bad guy". Jal...I can so understand everything you said. My 11 year old difficult child is very into Xbox Live right now. The problem is that if I take it away from him as a consequence - or take ANYTHING away from him - he has a fit and it does not end for HOURS. Then I start my thinking of how much of this can I control? Should I be handing out consequences? Does he deserve them? Soon, I'm in nowhere land with no answers and he usually gets his stuff back. I would be more than willing to take everything out of his room and make it a so to speak "safe room" and let him have these meltdowns a few times to see if he would eventually learn from consequences BUT husband will not do it. He refuses to allow difficult child to bang on doors, destroy things, scream for hours, etc. So...nothing gets solved. It is VERY hard when two people are not on the same page.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="STRESSEDTOMAX, post: 574705, member: 3512"] I can relate to so much that has been said by everybody about this. My situation has been that since difficult child was about two and the ODD behaviors began to show themselves, I get SO frustrated because I feel like I want my husband to partner with me in the discipline but he has an anger management problem so I feel it always goes too far and I step in to "protect" my son from husband anger. Then, my son takes this to mean that I am on his "side" and everything gets worse. My husband's take on this is that he is always put in the role of "the bad guy". Jal...I can so understand everything you said. My 11 year old difficult child is very into Xbox Live right now. The problem is that if I take it away from him as a consequence - or take ANYTHING away from him - he has a fit and it does not end for HOURS. Then I start my thinking of how much of this can I control? Should I be handing out consequences? Does he deserve them? Soon, I'm in nowhere land with no answers and he usually gets his stuff back. I would be more than willing to take everything out of his room and make it a so to speak "safe room" and let him have these meltdowns a few times to see if he would eventually learn from consequences BUT husband will not do it. He refuses to allow difficult child to bang on doors, destroy things, scream for hours, etc. So...nothing gets solved. It is VERY hard when two people are not on the same page. [/QUOTE]
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