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Carolyn9595
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I'm sorry to be only negative here but I put on my coping and optimistic face in public. Here, I'm going to get to the ugly facts.
My son, adopted at birth, age 15, height 6'2, ADD/ODD, failing 10th grade, bullies us every day, insults us and calls us names. There is no good day with him. He has been difficult to say the least all his life. He is now on Prozac and Vyvanse but I don't see it helping him. He's been in counseling off and on since he was young but the talking doesn't mean anything to him. Then when the counselor hits a nerve, he refuses to go back. He is on juvenille probation for shooting a lady with a bb gun. He just snuck a rifle size bb gun out of the house last night to give his friends. My husband is 60 and exhausted. He loves this kid so much but it is taking a toll on him. The boy is so gifted in athletics and could be scouted for his pitching but his grades stink because he chooses to sit and stare. He is hell to live with. You all know this whole scene. I sometimes fantasize about staying a few nights in a hotel so I don't have to go home. I find minimal conversation is best. Some nights and weekends have their positive moments but it doesn't last long.
I would like to send him to a treatment facility or a special camp for boys or somewhere this summer to give us a break and maybe the place will help him change or want to change. A Christian camp? I'm willing to move money from somewhere to do it. He could get worse in the next few years and I don't want to regret not taking a bold step now. We live in Florida and have a car but no relatives.
Where could I send him? How could I get him in the car? How would he qualify for someplace? He has insurance.
I can't tell you how thankful I am for you all and your compassion and expertise!
I know I can turn to you all and say what I'm thinking and you will understand and help me. No psychiatrist at even $100 an hour could replace this board!
My son, adopted at birth, age 15, height 6'2, ADD/ODD, failing 10th grade, bullies us every day, insults us and calls us names. There is no good day with him. He has been difficult to say the least all his life. He is now on Prozac and Vyvanse but I don't see it helping him. He's been in counseling off and on since he was young but the talking doesn't mean anything to him. Then when the counselor hits a nerve, he refuses to go back. He is on juvenille probation for shooting a lady with a bb gun. He just snuck a rifle size bb gun out of the house last night to give his friends. My husband is 60 and exhausted. He loves this kid so much but it is taking a toll on him. The boy is so gifted in athletics and could be scouted for his pitching but his grades stink because he chooses to sit and stare. He is hell to live with. You all know this whole scene. I sometimes fantasize about staying a few nights in a hotel so I don't have to go home. I find minimal conversation is best. Some nights and weekends have their positive moments but it doesn't last long.
I would like to send him to a treatment facility or a special camp for boys or somewhere this summer to give us a break and maybe the place will help him change or want to change. A Christian camp? I'm willing to move money from somewhere to do it. He could get worse in the next few years and I don't want to regret not taking a bold step now. We live in Florida and have a car but no relatives.
Where could I send him? How could I get him in the car? How would he qualify for someplace? He has insurance.
I can't tell you how thankful I am for you all and your compassion and expertise!
I know I can turn to you all and say what I'm thinking and you will understand and help me. No psychiatrist at even $100 an hour could replace this board!