Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
Where do I begin?
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="Echolette" data-source="post: 620962" data-attributes="member: 17269"><p>JKF,</p><p>welcome back..I don't know you from before, but it sounds like we can be friends..</p><p>.</p><p>I feel for you...it is terrible when our difficult child's hurt the kind and helpful people who try to help them...it is one of those wounds that are just too big to heal, sometimes. And it sounds like you also have a lot of disappointment, of hoping that this would be a fresh start...and it wasn't.</p><p></p><p>I'm sure you feel sorry for your dad, too, who is in the thick of it...dropping him off won't be fun.</p><p></p><p>You might read some of the posts of Child of Mine and Seeking Strength, who have had to step away from helping their sons in an acute ways. You might want to make an actual planto deal with the barrage that you are probably right is coming. If you are prepared with responses, even pre-written ones, it might help you to be proactive rather than reactive...and it might help keep you from being manipulated, or becoming undone by your own stress and hurt. </p><p></p><p>I am sure you are right that stepping in now won't help him. HOnestly I hope the neighbors or your dad press charges...what he has done is criminal, and he should deal with the consequences of that sooner rather than later. But that is me, and really it is for them to decide that, not you...you can stay out of that decision process as his mom, and you can let yourself do that. </p><p></p><p>Bless you and keep you. I'm glad you turned here...there isn't a better place to help you get through this stuff.</p><p></p><p>Echo</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Echolette, post: 620962, member: 17269"] JKF, welcome back..I don't know you from before, but it sounds like we can be friends.. . I feel for you...it is terrible when our difficult child's hurt the kind and helpful people who try to help them...it is one of those wounds that are just too big to heal, sometimes. And it sounds like you also have a lot of disappointment, of hoping that this would be a fresh start...and it wasn't. I'm sure you feel sorry for your dad, too, who is in the thick of it...dropping him off won't be fun. You might read some of the posts of Child of Mine and Seeking Strength, who have had to step away from helping their sons in an acute ways. You might want to make an actual planto deal with the barrage that you are probably right is coming. If you are prepared with responses, even pre-written ones, it might help you to be proactive rather than reactive...and it might help keep you from being manipulated, or becoming undone by your own stress and hurt. I am sure you are right that stepping in now won't help him. HOnestly I hope the neighbors or your dad press charges...what he has done is criminal, and he should deal with the consequences of that sooner rather than later. But that is me, and really it is for them to decide that, not you...you can stay out of that decision process as his mom, and you can let yourself do that. Bless you and keep you. I'm glad you turned here...there isn't a better place to help you get through this stuff. Echo [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
Where do I begin?
Top