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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 621040" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Thank you for sharing your back story, JKF. I'm fairly new to the board---been here a couple of months. It has already helped me so much. Writing helps me and reading others' stories helps me, and it helps me in a different way than Al-Anon helps me. I've been working that program diligently for four years.</p><p></p><p>My heart breaks for you reading your story. It is also my story, although the details, situation and particulars are different. </p><p></p><p>One thing that stands out to me here, today, is the fact that most people are survivors. The will to keep on breathing is a profound one. Your son is still breathing, my son is still breathing (although homeless and who knows where in my town, here today). At least for today. Who would have EVER thought they would be where they are? I am so glad that God doesn't let us know the future, because I sadly believe that we would only focus on the pain of it, not the joys that also come with our lives. </p><p></p><p>You and I are still breathing, and today, even more than "just breathing." We have HAD to learn how to survive this greatest of all pain. We have suffered day after day after day after day. We have tried everything in the world to change this. And then, we began to realize we just can't. If we could, we surely would. But we can't. That power is not given to us. That power is elsewhere. </p><p></p><p>What power IS given to us? The power to change ourselves. Just that and no more. </p><p></p><p>Slowly, somehow, through so many things---hard work, grace, determination, time---we have started to live again. I can tell you are feeling that ability to live again, even right now, even in the midst of uncertainty, crisis, fear and grief. You know where you are headed. JKF, that is huge. That is significant. </p><p></p><p>I am glad, for you that you have had geographic distance and physical separation for a while. That can help us so much, to give us time and space and a chance to heal, so we can start moving forward, <u><strong>to the place we must go</strong></u>, for ourselves and for all of the people still here, still that we love, still that need us.</p><p></p><p>I am praying for your son today, that somehow, someway, something breaks through his decisions and he can see and grasp a different path and a different way to be. </p><p></p><p>I am also praying for you, your husband and your younger son, for courage, strength and energy to keep on taking one step at a time in your own lives. </p><p></p><p>We are here for you. We get it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 621040, member: 17542"] Thank you for sharing your back story, JKF. I'm fairly new to the board---been here a couple of months. It has already helped me so much. Writing helps me and reading others' stories helps me, and it helps me in a different way than Al-Anon helps me. I've been working that program diligently for four years. My heart breaks for you reading your story. It is also my story, although the details, situation and particulars are different. One thing that stands out to me here, today, is the fact that most people are survivors. The will to keep on breathing is a profound one. Your son is still breathing, my son is still breathing (although homeless and who knows where in my town, here today). At least for today. Who would have EVER thought they would be where they are? I am so glad that God doesn't let us know the future, because I sadly believe that we would only focus on the pain of it, not the joys that also come with our lives. You and I are still breathing, and today, even more than "just breathing." We have HAD to learn how to survive this greatest of all pain. We have suffered day after day after day after day. We have tried everything in the world to change this. And then, we began to realize we just can't. If we could, we surely would. But we can't. That power is not given to us. That power is elsewhere. What power IS given to us? The power to change ourselves. Just that and no more. Slowly, somehow, through so many things---hard work, grace, determination, time---we have started to live again. I can tell you are feeling that ability to live again, even right now, even in the midst of uncertainty, crisis, fear and grief. You know where you are headed. JKF, that is huge. That is significant. I am glad, for you that you have had geographic distance and physical separation for a while. That can help us so much, to give us time and space and a chance to heal, so we can start moving forward, [U][B]to the place we must go[/B][/U], for ourselves and for all of the people still here, still that we love, still that need us. I am praying for your son today, that somehow, someway, something breaks through his decisions and he can see and grasp a different path and a different way to be. I am also praying for you, your husband and your younger son, for courage, strength and energy to keep on taking one step at a time in your own lives. We are here for you. We get it. [/QUOTE]
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