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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 464623" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>in my opinion he's way too old to live with you, hold you hostage, threaten to kill himself (you should have hospitalized him) or steal from you and get away with it. If that were my kid, he'd be out on his own, even if that meant living in a shelter, and I'd probably have turned him in for stealing because without consequences how will he ever change? What if he steals from a stranger and gets caught? In fact, any time he displayed violence, I'd call the police. He can't think he can act like a two year old, in a man's body, and that it is ok. I believe in tough love for adults who refuse to grow up (I had one...she did turn her life around with some tough love).</p><p></p><p>Does he have to pay rent at least? You buy him his own car? Really? Not saying I'm a better parent...I have made TONS of mistakes...but my kids USE my car, pay whatever they have to for insurance on our plan, and buy gas or they don't drive. in my opinion treating him like he is a child, even if he has some mental health issues, is not the answer to making him a stronger more responsible young man. What is he going to do when you aren't around anymore? Do you also pay his cell phone or other bills? in my opinion he is just too old to be paid for...he should pay his own bills.</p><p></p><p>JMO...others will come along. One last thing...are drugs in the picture? That's a BIG reason why anyone steals, even from family. They need money for drugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 464623, member: 1550"] in my opinion he's way too old to live with you, hold you hostage, threaten to kill himself (you should have hospitalized him) or steal from you and get away with it. If that were my kid, he'd be out on his own, even if that meant living in a shelter, and I'd probably have turned him in for stealing because without consequences how will he ever change? What if he steals from a stranger and gets caught? In fact, any time he displayed violence, I'd call the police. He can't think he can act like a two year old, in a man's body, and that it is ok. I believe in tough love for adults who refuse to grow up (I had one...she did turn her life around with some tough love). Does he have to pay rent at least? You buy him his own car? Really? Not saying I'm a better parent...I have made TONS of mistakes...but my kids USE my car, pay whatever they have to for insurance on our plan, and buy gas or they don't drive. in my opinion treating him like he is a child, even if he has some mental health issues, is not the answer to making him a stronger more responsible young man. What is he going to do when you aren't around anymore? Do you also pay his cell phone or other bills? in my opinion he is just too old to be paid for...he should pay his own bills. JMO...others will come along. One last thing...are drugs in the picture? That's a BIG reason why anyone steals, even from family. They need money for drugs. [/QUOTE]
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