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<blockquote data-quote="Fran" data-source="post: 32836" data-attributes="member: 3"><p>difficult child has always tended towards the fringe and alternative beliefs. He used this as his sledge hammer to get your attention and get a rise out of people,several years ago. Eventually he has come to make the alternative beliefs part of his quest.(for lack of a better term) Every teen searches for his own belief and usually rebels against standard or parental choices. difficult child's in their distorted or in thank you's case magical thinking tends to go way over to the other side of traditional.</p><p>Is the Chaos Magic the problem or is his magical thinking the problem? My difficult child prefers to shift towards super powers, magical transformation in order to defend the world from bad guys. It seems to me as his defense against what he sees as a scary world and his own helplessness. He can't figure out the mainstream way to avoid the pitfalls of life so he created his own set of armour and weapons. He wants and needs hero's to protect him or for him to protect the underdog as the hero. It's not appropriate for a 22 yr old to wish and hope that a superhero will appear or that he will be the hero to save someone else but it gives him something to stem his tide of fear and anxiety.</p><p></p><p>I doubt any of us would have a problem with our difficult child's doing anything positive regardless of their choice of faith. Many of ours have such skewered thinking that a moral code that is healthy and good regardless of the sect would be a good thing.</p><p></p><p>How to get thank you to keep a balance from his interest in odd subjects to preventing the odd subjects swallow him and allow him to lose touch with reality would be my concern?</p><p></p><p>Sue at 16 you have to realize there are very few things you can prevent. Healthy use of the internet is what we all hope, wish and teach but let's face it, the natural curiosity of teens will always want to test the limits. I think the thought process is a normal semi adult process. We just want to help them keep a healthy balance. In 2 yrs, you will be shut off from even Dr's treatment plans,conversations or even medications. No one will share pertinent info with you unless your son allows it or is present. Very scary and very shocking to me. My difficult child isn't quite ready to handle his own affairs and I am not ready to take over guardianship. I don't get to make his decisions. I don't necessarily get included in any of his physician appts, SSI appts, or any other processes.</p><p></p><p>How will you prevent him from anything? His inability to have good judgement isn't against the law. Being slightly out of touch with reality isn't a treatable offense. The only criteria seems to be "is he a danger to himself or others?".</p><p></p><p>I would keep reminding him to keep his feet in reality and realize magic is fantasy. I don't believe there is anything else you can do.</p><p></p><p>My question to myself is why does he like this so much? Why does he need it? What does it do for him? What does it represent to him? What does your child need?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Fran, post: 32836, member: 3"] difficult child has always tended towards the fringe and alternative beliefs. He used this as his sledge hammer to get your attention and get a rise out of people,several years ago. Eventually he has come to make the alternative beliefs part of his quest.(for lack of a better term) Every teen searches for his own belief and usually rebels against standard or parental choices. difficult child's in their distorted or in thank you's case magical thinking tends to go way over to the other side of traditional. Is the Chaos Magic the problem or is his magical thinking the problem? My difficult child prefers to shift towards super powers, magical transformation in order to defend the world from bad guys. It seems to me as his defense against what he sees as a scary world and his own helplessness. He can't figure out the mainstream way to avoid the pitfalls of life so he created his own set of armour and weapons. He wants and needs hero's to protect him or for him to protect the underdog as the hero. It's not appropriate for a 22 yr old to wish and hope that a superhero will appear or that he will be the hero to save someone else but it gives him something to stem his tide of fear and anxiety. I doubt any of us would have a problem with our difficult child's doing anything positive regardless of their choice of faith. Many of ours have such skewered thinking that a moral code that is healthy and good regardless of the sect would be a good thing. How to get thank you to keep a balance from his interest in odd subjects to preventing the odd subjects swallow him and allow him to lose touch with reality would be my concern? Sue at 16 you have to realize there are very few things you can prevent. Healthy use of the internet is what we all hope, wish and teach but let's face it, the natural curiosity of teens will always want to test the limits. I think the thought process is a normal semi adult process. We just want to help them keep a healthy balance. In 2 yrs, you will be shut off from even Dr's treatment plans,conversations or even medications. No one will share pertinent info with you unless your son allows it or is present. Very scary and very shocking to me. My difficult child isn't quite ready to handle his own affairs and I am not ready to take over guardianship. I don't get to make his decisions. I don't necessarily get included in any of his physician appts, SSI appts, or any other processes. How will you prevent him from anything? His inability to have good judgement isn't against the law. Being slightly out of touch with reality isn't a treatable offense. The only criteria seems to be "is he a danger to himself or others?". I would keep reminding him to keep his feet in reality and realize magic is fantasy. I don't believe there is anything else you can do. My question to myself is why does he like this so much? Why does he need it? What does it do for him? What does it represent to him? What does your child need? [/QUOTE]
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