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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 594592" data-attributes="member: 15801"><p>Karen,</p><p></p><p>I so feel for you. Being in this situation is horrible, and facing having a child homeless and possibly on the streets is horrible. I know this, I have been there, I am there. When my son was 18 we did kick him out for similar reasons you describe... he did couch surf for awhile and that whole situation got worse before it got better and eventually did lead him to rehab. I think there is something useful in a kid learning that really he cant just live at home, take advantage of the family with no consequences, and a few days at first may very well lead him to rehab... problem is you have no idea how long it will take.</p><p></p><p>My son has been in countless programs and sober houses since then and is once again homeless now at the age of 21. He has learned to survive on the streets so that no longer keeps me awake at night like it once did. It feels awful to me that I have a kid who is homeless living on the streets though.</p><p></p><p>What I have learned is that there are a number of programs geared towards homeless youth....my son is now aging out of some of those services...depending on where you live. </p><p></p><p>So my suggestion is to look in your area for two things... one is programs/shelters for homeless youth and to look for information on rehabs in your area. The first is to give your son when he leaves so that he can find options and the 2nd for when he is ready to stop being homeless. If you live in Denver or in Southern CA send me a private message and I can give you some contact info. My son has been in both of those areas.</p><p></p><p>The other possible suggestion would be to find an interventionist who might be able to help you convince your son to go into rehab... we are past this point with my son but if your son has not been in rehab before this might be worth a shot.</p><p></p><p>However I have come to the sad conclusion is there really is nothing I can do for my son unless he wants help for himself.</p><p></p><p>And you absolutely need to protect your younger two kids. That is the one thing that keeps me going and also the one thing that makes it clear to me I did the right thing.... if my son was still at home my 18 year old daughter would not be thriving like she is.</p><p></p><p>*TL</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 594592, member: 15801"] Karen, I so feel for you. Being in this situation is horrible, and facing having a child homeless and possibly on the streets is horrible. I know this, I have been there, I am there. When my son was 18 we did kick him out for similar reasons you describe... he did couch surf for awhile and that whole situation got worse before it got better and eventually did lead him to rehab. I think there is something useful in a kid learning that really he cant just live at home, take advantage of the family with no consequences, and a few days at first may very well lead him to rehab... problem is you have no idea how long it will take. My son has been in countless programs and sober houses since then and is once again homeless now at the age of 21. He has learned to survive on the streets so that no longer keeps me awake at night like it once did. It feels awful to me that I have a kid who is homeless living on the streets though. What I have learned is that there are a number of programs geared towards homeless youth....my son is now aging out of some of those services...depending on where you live. So my suggestion is to look in your area for two things... one is programs/shelters for homeless youth and to look for information on rehabs in your area. The first is to give your son when he leaves so that he can find options and the 2nd for when he is ready to stop being homeless. If you live in Denver or in Southern CA send me a private message and I can give you some contact info. My son has been in both of those areas. The other possible suggestion would be to find an interventionist who might be able to help you convince your son to go into rehab... we are past this point with my son but if your son has not been in rehab before this might be worth a shot. However I have come to the sad conclusion is there really is nothing I can do for my son unless he wants help for himself. And you absolutely need to protect your younger two kids. That is the one thing that keeps me going and also the one thing that makes it clear to me I did the right thing.... if my son was still at home my 18 year old daughter would not be thriving like she is. *TL [/QUOTE]
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