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<blockquote data-quote="flutterbee" data-source="post: 170884"><p>Here is my experience.</p><p></p><p>difficult child's former therapist thought that difficult child's anxiety stemmed from her EFD and the NonVerbal Learning Disorder (NVLD) characteristics. I never agreed with that. I do think, however, that it does become a vicious cycle and they feed off each other. The anxiety causes the EFD which causes more anxiety, etc.</p><p></p><p>My difficult child was born anxious. From the age of 3 weeks to 3 months I had to hold her all the time. No exaggeration. If I put her down for a minute, she would scream. And I don't mean she would cry herself to sleep. She would scream until she was hoarse and then she would scream some more. She would fall asleep on my shoulder and as soon as I laid her down, she'd wake up. About every 3rd day she slept all day, only waking up for feedings, because she was just so exhausted. </p><p></p><p>She always had separation anxiety, but by the age of 4 I couldn't even leave the room without her falling apart. She always had this need that I can't even articulate.</p><p></p><p>And I have noticed that when the anxiety is under control, the EFD isn't such a big issue. It's still there, but she can compensate much better. Since being homeschooled, she's gone from not being able to clean her room at all, to me sitting in her room and telling her what to do next, to doing it on her own. When her anxiety was sky high, she couldn't even begin to form the necessary planning to even get started.</p><p></p><p>Think of a situation that causes you severe anxiety. Think of how you feel and how you perceive the world around you. For me, it's public speaking. My heart races, I feel like I can't catch my breath, there is a buzzing in my ears, my hands shake, I have trouble keeping my thoughts in any kind of an order or that are even relevant, even with cuecards I lose my place, I'll lose myself in time and space, I'll forget what the date is...I could go on and on. Imagine living like that every day of your life. Yeah, I think it would effect executive functions.</p><p></p><p>We've had the professionals that wanted to treat the emotional dysregulation first and some only and I never went for it. To me, it was masking the symptoms of the anxiety, but it was not addressing the anxiety. And they were powerful medications that I wasn't comfortable using unless it became obvious that were absolutely necessary. But, it was the symptom everyone saw. As her parent, I recognized it for anxiety. I knew that when her anxiety was down, the emotional dysregulation didn't happen. As her parent, I didn't want to just mask the symptoms. I wanted to help her learn to cope with her disorder and hopefully overcome them. Unfortunately, my difficult child even refuses to take the lexapro which did help significantly with her anxiety. She's also very good at shooting herself in the foot. So, we keep working on tools, skills and inner resources. </p><p></p><p>That's been my experience and is my $.02.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="flutterbee, post: 170884"] Here is my experience. difficult child's former therapist thought that difficult child's anxiety stemmed from her EFD and the NonVerbal Learning Disorder (NVLD) characteristics. I never agreed with that. I do think, however, that it does become a vicious cycle and they feed off each other. The anxiety causes the EFD which causes more anxiety, etc. My difficult child was born anxious. From the age of 3 weeks to 3 months I had to hold her all the time. No exaggeration. If I put her down for a minute, she would scream. And I don't mean she would cry herself to sleep. She would scream until she was hoarse and then she would scream some more. She would fall asleep on my shoulder and as soon as I laid her down, she'd wake up. About every 3rd day she slept all day, only waking up for feedings, because she was just so exhausted. She always had separation anxiety, but by the age of 4 I couldn't even leave the room without her falling apart. She always had this need that I can't even articulate. And I have noticed that when the anxiety is under control, the EFD isn't such a big issue. It's still there, but she can compensate much better. Since being homeschooled, she's gone from not being able to clean her room at all, to me sitting in her room and telling her what to do next, to doing it on her own. When her anxiety was sky high, she couldn't even begin to form the necessary planning to even get started. Think of a situation that causes you severe anxiety. Think of how you feel and how you perceive the world around you. For me, it's public speaking. My heart races, I feel like I can't catch my breath, there is a buzzing in my ears, my hands shake, I have trouble keeping my thoughts in any kind of an order or that are even relevant, even with cuecards I lose my place, I'll lose myself in time and space, I'll forget what the date is...I could go on and on. Imagine living like that every day of your life. Yeah, I think it would effect executive functions. We've had the professionals that wanted to treat the emotional dysregulation first and some only and I never went for it. To me, it was masking the symptoms of the anxiety, but it was not addressing the anxiety. And they were powerful medications that I wasn't comfortable using unless it became obvious that were absolutely necessary. But, it was the symptom everyone saw. As her parent, I recognized it for anxiety. I knew that when her anxiety was down, the emotional dysregulation didn't happen. As her parent, I didn't want to just mask the symptoms. I wanted to help her learn to cope with her disorder and hopefully overcome them. Unfortunately, my difficult child even refuses to take the lexapro which did help significantly with her anxiety. She's also very good at shooting herself in the foot. So, we keep working on tools, skills and inner resources. That's been my experience and is my $.02. [/QUOTE]
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