One of J's behaviours that I find the hardest to put up with is his whining... what I believe is called "negative persistence". It arises often during the day, basically whenever he doesn't get something he wants. Some things I have patience with, but this I find really pushes a button with me - I find it very hard to say "it's not his fault, it's whatever is wrong with him" but just react to him as though he is being a spoilt brat, often... He will just keep on and on and on whining and protesting, which of course makes me all the more impatient and frustrated with him. Which then makes his whining and crying worse, and round we go... Part of me just does not want to give in to this unpleasant behaviour, and of course when I stand firm, he starts really crying loudly, trying to get what he wants... To what extent can he "help" this? What do you do with your children when they indulge in this behaviour? Any tips to get round it/prevent it?