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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 347911" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>lI see that now that it's clearer what I'm dealing with. I'll try to be a bobblehead. Still- there are 2 concerns. One being that they are all so convinceed that I am the way GAL and PO (previous) portrayed me that every party may just continue to take every action or inaction I make or say as either challenging or not participating. For example,, the super said the first meeting would need all of us there and would take about 1 1/2 hour. That's when I said I thought this was a mentor situation. She said welll they were therapuetic mentors so theey needed to fill out paperwork and a plan listing difficult child's goals and my goals. I said oh, so you're therapists? She said no, I asked then what kind of services they provide so I'd be able to think of goals in that area. That conversation got turned into PO accusing me of not working with them because they didn't provide the services I thought difficult child should get and him saying he made the order, I wasn't in control of it. Geezz.... Of course, if I sit there and say I have no goals, that will be turned into me not participating. I'll throw out a couple I think they should be able to handle.</p><p></p><p>Second concerrn, if difficult child whines to the mentor about something at home- house rules or lack of privileges or whatever, mentor reports it back to PO. Boom, more orders. difficult child did that stuff with previous PO- had her and Department of Juvenile Justice therapist convinced the whole problem was that I would NEVER let him go out and play with friends. They assume difficult child is telling the truth without asdking me. The truth was that since difficult child had gone manic and set that brush fire in the neighborhood (GAL of course made issue in court that maybe I hadn;'t been supervising him enough), I didn't let him go out if he just had major medication changes, was just released from psychiatric hospital, self-mutilating, or had not gone to school that day- or was grounded. Sorry but that left him in the house quite a bit last fall and winter. I will talk to him and make sure he understands that pulling those stories again will result in bing on parole longer and both of us having more orders/monitoring, because I'm sure it will. Hopefully, this PO won't go so far as reinforcing to difficult child that they think all his problems are my fault like the last one and GAL- difficult child doesn't mind very well when he knows the legal people are blaming me for everything.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 347911, member: 3699"] lI see that now that it's clearer what I'm dealing with. I'll try to be a bobblehead. Still- there are 2 concerns. One being that they are all so convinceed that I am the way GAL and PO (previous) portrayed me that every party may just continue to take every action or inaction I make or say as either challenging or not participating. For example,, the super said the first meeting would need all of us there and would take about 1 1/2 hour. That's when I said I thought this was a mentor situation. She said welll they were therapuetic mentors so theey needed to fill out paperwork and a plan listing difficult child's goals and my goals. I said oh, so you're therapists? She said no, I asked then what kind of services they provide so I'd be able to think of goals in that area. That conversation got turned into PO accusing me of not working with them because they didn't provide the services I thought difficult child should get and him saying he made the order, I wasn't in control of it. Geezz.... Of course, if I sit there and say I have no goals, that will be turned into me not participating. I'll throw out a couple I think they should be able to handle. Second concerrn, if difficult child whines to the mentor about something at home- house rules or lack of privileges or whatever, mentor reports it back to PO. Boom, more orders. difficult child did that stuff with previous PO- had her and Department of Juvenile Justice therapist convinced the whole problem was that I would NEVER let him go out and play with friends. They assume difficult child is telling the truth without asdking me. The truth was that since difficult child had gone manic and set that brush fire in the neighborhood (GAL of course made issue in court that maybe I hadn;'t been supervising him enough), I didn't let him go out if he just had major medication changes, was just released from psychiatric hospital, self-mutilating, or had not gone to school that day- or was grounded. Sorry but that left him in the house quite a bit last fall and winter. I will talk to him and make sure he understands that pulling those stories again will result in bing on parole longer and both of us having more orders/monitoring, because I'm sure it will. Hopefully, this PO won't go so far as reinforcing to difficult child that they think all his problems are my fault like the last one and GAL- difficult child doesn't mind very well when he knows the legal people are blaming me for everything. [/QUOTE]
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