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<blockquote data-quote="everywoman" data-source="post: 328155" data-attributes="member: 1436"><p>I believe you have learned the true meaning of detachment. Detachment is a tricky thing. So many practice it by simply ignoring the person. I could never do that with my son. Instead, I learned to ignore the behavior. </p><p></p><p>For so very long, I tried my best to fix him...to change what I saw as wrong in him. I begged, pleaded, yelled, cried, bribed, cursed, screamed, talked...I was so insistent that he wanted my help...needed my help to make him into the person I wanted him to be. But he didn't. He just needed my love.</p><p></p><p>When I finally detached, let go of control, allowed him to face the natural consequences, quit preaching, and quietly accepted that he is who he is and is going to do what he wants to do, I felt at peace. I could see the good things about him that I had missed for so many years. He still does things that drive me crazy, if I allow myself to concentrate on them. I don't. </p><p></p><p>And it has changed our relationship. I love my son. I don't like some of the things he does. But, those are two separate entities. And I would rather concentrate on loving him.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="everywoman, post: 328155, member: 1436"] I believe you have learned the true meaning of detachment. Detachment is a tricky thing. So many practice it by simply ignoring the person. I could never do that with my son. Instead, I learned to ignore the behavior. For so very long, I tried my best to fix him...to change what I saw as wrong in him. I begged, pleaded, yelled, cried, bribed, cursed, screamed, talked...I was so insistent that he wanted my help...needed my help to make him into the person I wanted him to be. But he didn't. He just needed my love. When I finally detached, let go of control, allowed him to face the natural consequences, quit preaching, and quietly accepted that he is who he is and is going to do what he wants to do, I felt at peace. I could see the good things about him that I had missed for so many years. He still does things that drive me crazy, if I allow myself to concentrate on them. I don't. And it has changed our relationship. I love my son. I don't like some of the things he does. But, those are two separate entities. And I would rather concentrate on loving him. [/QUOTE]
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