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<blockquote data-quote="Fran" data-source="post: 206202" data-attributes="member: 3"><p>Linda, I love the simplicity of his approach. </p><p>I think some of our kids are a little less "civilized" emotionally. They seem to react impulsively to stimuli for whatever reason. Their defense is to lash out before thinking about the situation. Over reaction to minor conflicts. </p><p></p><p>I also agree that I probably worked too hard to keep his self esteem intact. Don't misunderstand, I believe it's important for kids to know that they are always loved and they should feel good about who they are but they also must have the ability to self reflect about what was wrong with their choice or behavior. I sometimes think that if I didn't acknowledge him when his behavior wasn't appropriate(like Cesar or Victoria) he may have changed it himself. </p><p></p><p>My difficult child doesn't really recognize authority. He is forced to depend on us and people at school or work but he still thinks we are all on equal footing. He doesn't really get it despite us being pretty firm authority. It's why school and work as a young adult runs into complications. When reprimanded he goes into defense and anger because he is criticized. He doesn't quite get that we have the responsibility to teach and correct. Intellectually he knows we are in charge but he doesn't really get why. : (</p><p></p><p>Anyhow, we are pack leaders but difficult child is missing the part where he can see the hierarchy of families or work. It's sad. </p><p></p><p>Exercise, discipline(loving) then affection. In humans though, there must be teaching, humor and structure. in my humble opinion. </p><p></p><p>There is a lot of common sense in the simplicity of exercise, discipline and then affection. Being pack leader comes with a lot of work and responsibility to do right by our pack.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Fran, post: 206202, member: 3"] Linda, I love the simplicity of his approach. I think some of our kids are a little less "civilized" emotionally. They seem to react impulsively to stimuli for whatever reason. Their defense is to lash out before thinking about the situation. Over reaction to minor conflicts. I also agree that I probably worked too hard to keep his self esteem intact. Don't misunderstand, I believe it's important for kids to know that they are always loved and they should feel good about who they are but they also must have the ability to self reflect about what was wrong with their choice or behavior. I sometimes think that if I didn't acknowledge him when his behavior wasn't appropriate(like Cesar or Victoria) he may have changed it himself. My difficult child doesn't really recognize authority. He is forced to depend on us and people at school or work but he still thinks we are all on equal footing. He doesn't really get it despite us being pretty firm authority. It's why school and work as a young adult runs into complications. When reprimanded he goes into defense and anger because he is criticized. He doesn't quite get that we have the responsibility to teach and correct. Intellectually he knows we are in charge but he doesn't really get why. : ( Anyhow, we are pack leaders but difficult child is missing the part where he can see the hierarchy of families or work. It's sad. Exercise, discipline(loving) then affection. In humans though, there must be teaching, humor and structure. in my humble opinion. There is a lot of common sense in the simplicity of exercise, discipline and then affection. Being pack leader comes with a lot of work and responsibility to do right by our pack. [/QUOTE]
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