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Why did I have even a flutter of hope?
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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 492060" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Janet is right. You did your best to make this a nice holiday for everyone. If they couldn't appreciate the effort, then it's not your fault. Sounds to me like M has issues that are above and beyond, I hope he's in treatment. Perhaps he needs a lesson, due to his family background, that it's not what you got but the thought behind it that counts. Honestly, you didn't have to get him a darn thing. I understate the desire for Matt to make the holiday nice for his friend, but chalk this up to a lesson in you can't force the emotional response you want. Evidently M was in a mindset to feel sorry for himself. A shame. He probably would've had a very nice time if he'd allowed himself to do so.</p><p></p><p>Not one of us mentioned husband yesterday. Not one. I'm know we were all thinking of him, but yeah. Instead we focused on other things, the pleasure of being together and the diversion of the grandkids excitement. It got us through it with a reasonable amount of normalcy. husband would've been very upset, knowing how this family loves Xmas, had we turned it into a sad holiday. I felt the pangs of his absence once everyone left, but I got through it ok.</p><p></p><p>As for your aunt.......I'd have had to tell her to shut up already. geez I'm sure she did miss your dad, but she didn't have to keep commenting on it over and over.</p><p></p><p>((hugs))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 492060, member: 84"] Janet is right. You did your best to make this a nice holiday for everyone. If they couldn't appreciate the effort, then it's not your fault. Sounds to me like M has issues that are above and beyond, I hope he's in treatment. Perhaps he needs a lesson, due to his family background, that it's not what you got but the thought behind it that counts. Honestly, you didn't have to get him a darn thing. I understate the desire for Matt to make the holiday nice for his friend, but chalk this up to a lesson in you can't force the emotional response you want. Evidently M was in a mindset to feel sorry for himself. A shame. He probably would've had a very nice time if he'd allowed himself to do so. Not one of us mentioned husband yesterday. Not one. I'm know we were all thinking of him, but yeah. Instead we focused on other things, the pleasure of being together and the diversion of the grandkids excitement. It got us through it with a reasonable amount of normalcy. husband would've been very upset, knowing how this family loves Xmas, had we turned it into a sad holiday. I felt the pangs of his absence once everyone left, but I got through it ok. As for your aunt.......I'd have had to tell her to shut up already. geez I'm sure she did miss your dad, but she didn't have to keep commenting on it over and over. ((hugs)) [/QUOTE]
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