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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 446442" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p><span style="color: #000080"><span style="font-size: 10px">I agree, I think moms are moms for so long and so fiercely (many of us here in included) that it naturally carries over. For this reason, they think they are helping or pitching an idea you hadn't thought of (based on their own mom experience) and because we're adults ourselves now, coming from our parents it sounds like they don't believe in us or have faith in our ability. Mom may have to stop doing that to you, but the change will begin with you. You have to stop taking it personally and as both Susie and I (and perhaps others) have said, give her things to make her feel needed and useful. I am telling you - this works. I do it even now, evennow that my kids are grown, with my mother in law, friends of the family, sisters, everyone. The bottom line is that people, all of us, just want to feel that we can play/be a part of things. </span></span></p><p><span style="color: #000080"><span style="font-size: 10px"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #000080"><span style="font-size: 10px">Of course, easy for me to say, all this BS is behind me now...and it only took me forever to figure it out!!! As my kids became adults, I had to teach myself to be very mindful of when a "mom" statement is about to come out of my mouth...hold my tongue instead of telling them what I think (without being asked by them, of course, in which case, I let her rip). </span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 446442, member: 2211"] [COLOR=#000080][SIZE=2]I agree, I think moms are moms for so long and so fiercely (many of us here in included) that it naturally carries over. For this reason, they think they are helping or pitching an idea you hadn't thought of (based on their own mom experience) and because we're adults ourselves now, coming from our parents it sounds like they don't believe in us or have faith in our ability. Mom may have to stop doing that to you, but the change will begin with you. You have to stop taking it personally and as both Susie and I (and perhaps others) have said, give her things to make her feel needed and useful. I am telling you - this works. I do it even now, evennow that my kids are grown, with my mother in law, friends of the family, sisters, everyone. The bottom line is that people, all of us, just want to feel that we can play/be a part of things. Of course, easy for me to say, all this BS is behind me now...and it only took me forever to figure it out!!! As my kids became adults, I had to teach myself to be very mindful of when a "mom" statement is about to come out of my mouth...hold my tongue instead of telling them what I think (without being asked by them, of course, in which case, I let her rip). [/SIZE][/COLOR] [/QUOTE]
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