Just got a call from my sis telling me that my aunt died. (Wife of my dad's brother who's also passed). What really stinks about it is that our family just stopped getting together for holidays, etc. once the grandparents passed away and it was really hard for me to understand when I was young why. Now, the only time we ever connect is when someone dies. It's just awful. All we can do is draw upon the PAST. I actually had to work up enough courage to call my cousin tonight and speak to her. I have no clue why!!! Guilt? I suppose. We were so close as kids. Her mother (the aunt that just died) was actually very verbally abusive towards her and I remember always feeling bad for her. She was an only child and I think my aunt and uncle stayed together just for her when they really should have split. Anyways, what a way to re-connect with your family huh? I think the last time I saw her was at my uncle's funeral..... so pathetic.