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Why do they do even worse things when they are in trouble?
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<blockquote data-quote="gingersgrl" data-source="post: 557699" data-attributes="member: 15420"><p>I should have added attachment disorder to my sig. but they have ruled it out since this latest go round with mental health. She insists she wants to stay with me and I think that's why it was ruled out but it was classic attachment disorder when she first got to me. Many caregivers early on, at 2 1/2 she never wore a diaper or wet the bed, not once ever, dressed herself completely, was pretty self sufficient, talked to anyone at stores or restaurants and I swore she would have left with them too. When she came to live with me she had only met me once 6 months earlier for an hour because they lived in another part of the country yet she never even looked at her mother to say goodbye at the airport. She was too busy watching other people etc. When she came she and her brother both came. He turned 4 the day before they arrived. He was the same way and he started on the dogs immediately which was how I learned about attachment issues. He stayed a 1 1/2 yrs but he was even worse than she was. I think her loss came when he left. He had been the only constant in her life but even at 3 1/2 or 4 she knew she didn't want to go with him back to her mother. Mother had supposedly been sober for 6 months then but it turned out to not be true. So she's never seen her mother or brother again.</p><p></p><p>The lack of learning from her mistakes or the consequences she gets has always made me think she is Fetal Alcohol Effects (FAE). I did have her evaluated at the children's hospital here because her behavior was so bad in kindergarten and they said because of the amount of alcohol her mother consumed while pregnant she would have learning disabilities etc. but she isn't Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS). I don't know if she was exposed in utero to drugs but probably cocaine. </p><p></p><p>I have never met her father but from what I hear he's an alcoholic although not as severe as her mother. </p><p></p><p>As for the poor dog, I wish it were as simple as rehoming. I have a kennel and showed dogs for a living. I was in school for dog grooming when they came to live with me. It was a second career and one I loved and was successful at until the kids came to live with me. Slowly I've been rehoming and trying to get out of it all together but financially that's put me in a very bad place. I went from owning my own home and no debt at all to more debt than I'll ever be able to get out of in this lifetime. Not enough years of life left to pay it all off. Never been financially like this before in my life and it isn't the economy. The business was there if I hadn't been dealing with this. I just feels like I'm living a nightmare.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="gingersgrl, post: 557699, member: 15420"] I should have added attachment disorder to my sig. but they have ruled it out since this latest go round with mental health. She insists she wants to stay with me and I think that's why it was ruled out but it was classic attachment disorder when she first got to me. Many caregivers early on, at 2 1/2 she never wore a diaper or wet the bed, not once ever, dressed herself completely, was pretty self sufficient, talked to anyone at stores or restaurants and I swore she would have left with them too. When she came to live with me she had only met me once 6 months earlier for an hour because they lived in another part of the country yet she never even looked at her mother to say goodbye at the airport. She was too busy watching other people etc. When she came she and her brother both came. He turned 4 the day before they arrived. He was the same way and he started on the dogs immediately which was how I learned about attachment issues. He stayed a 1 1/2 yrs but he was even worse than she was. I think her loss came when he left. He had been the only constant in her life but even at 3 1/2 or 4 she knew she didn't want to go with him back to her mother. Mother had supposedly been sober for 6 months then but it turned out to not be true. So she's never seen her mother or brother again. The lack of learning from her mistakes or the consequences she gets has always made me think she is Fetal Alcohol Effects (FAE). I did have her evaluated at the children's hospital here because her behavior was so bad in kindergarten and they said because of the amount of alcohol her mother consumed while pregnant she would have learning disabilities etc. but she isn't Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS). I don't know if she was exposed in utero to drugs but probably cocaine. I have never met her father but from what I hear he's an alcoholic although not as severe as her mother. As for the poor dog, I wish it were as simple as rehoming. I have a kennel and showed dogs for a living. I was in school for dog grooming when they came to live with me. It was a second career and one I loved and was successful at until the kids came to live with me. Slowly I've been rehoming and trying to get out of it all together but financially that's put me in a very bad place. I went from owning my own home and no debt at all to more debt than I'll ever be able to get out of in this lifetime. Not enough years of life left to pay it all off. Never been financially like this before in my life and it isn't the economy. The business was there if I hadn't been dealing with this. I just feels like I'm living a nightmare. [/QUOTE]
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