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Why do you think treatment thus far hasn't worked?
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 131670" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I think that for many years my son was so depressed and angry that NOTHING would work. He refused to work WITH a therapist, to put in the effort to work with his medications, and that sensory issues blocked any and all progress. He and his dad were so very different, and each so intolerant of each other, that it really blocked any progress. Getting my husband on the same parenting strategy helped. with-o that there would be no progress, no "working".</p><p> </p><p>Right now, things ARE working. He is developing a relationship with his dad, and his grandpa works him through the rages (very very few now).</p><p> </p><p>I think he finally matured enough to have empathy for people (not just animals) and to see how his behavior changed other people's behavior. Watching his grandma go through some pretty major stuff made him want to help her. They struck a pact to both avoid a dangerous behavior, and have both stuck to it.</p><p> </p><p>His best friend is also a factor - she just doesn't have any respect for dangerous behavior, idiots, or people who flunk on purpose. Peer pressure in this case is a wonderful thing.</p><p> </p><p>So right now it is working. I think it will continue to work, but there will be setbacks.</p><p> </p><p>Learning that I could be DONE with the day to day stuff and living with him, while NEVER being done loving him also made a huge difference. </p><p> </p><p>I know that some of the medications blocked progress, but with-o medications he just can't function. And HE sees this. (sign of maturity???) I KNOW some of the medications made things worse. I KNOW some of my/husband's parenting made things worse. </p><p> </p><p>But we never woke up and asked how we could mess him up today, and he finally understands this a little bit. (Though for YEARS he had the idea that grownups stayed up all night on New Years Eve to think of new ways to make children's lives miserable, LOL!!!)</p><p> </p><p>I think it is different for every single one of our kids.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 131670, member: 1233"] I think that for many years my son was so depressed and angry that NOTHING would work. He refused to work WITH a therapist, to put in the effort to work with his medications, and that sensory issues blocked any and all progress. He and his dad were so very different, and each so intolerant of each other, that it really blocked any progress. Getting my husband on the same parenting strategy helped. with-o that there would be no progress, no "working". Right now, things ARE working. He is developing a relationship with his dad, and his grandpa works him through the rages (very very few now). I think he finally matured enough to have empathy for people (not just animals) and to see how his behavior changed other people's behavior. Watching his grandma go through some pretty major stuff made him want to help her. They struck a pact to both avoid a dangerous behavior, and have both stuck to it. His best friend is also a factor - she just doesn't have any respect for dangerous behavior, idiots, or people who flunk on purpose. Peer pressure in this case is a wonderful thing. So right now it is working. I think it will continue to work, but there will be setbacks. Learning that I could be DONE with the day to day stuff and living with him, while NEVER being done loving him also made a huge difference. I know that some of the medications blocked progress, but with-o medications he just can't function. And HE sees this. (sign of maturity???) I KNOW some of the medications made things worse. I KNOW some of my/husband's parenting made things worse. But we never woke up and asked how we could mess him up today, and he finally understands this a little bit. (Though for YEARS he had the idea that grownups stayed up all night on New Years Eve to think of new ways to make children's lives miserable, LOL!!!) I think it is different for every single one of our kids. [/QUOTE]
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