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Why does most of the learned behavior in childhood goes away when you are a adult?
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<blockquote data-quote="A dad" data-source="post: 675522" data-attributes="member: 18668"><p>There are no consequences for not doing the useful or proactive behavior. So what happened when I was a child if I did not shared the food well I was punished. </p><p> What happens now?</p><p> Well nothing there is no higher authority that can punish me or give me consequences if I do not share. I do have arguments with my wife about this but in the end it does not not go further then that.</p><p> What happened with my oldest if he was impolite well he got punished so there where consequences but now as a adult well there are none since there is no authority that can give him consequences if he was impolite.</p><p> See we got artificial consequences as children but as adults some do not exist because nobody had the authority to give you those consequences. </p><p> Of course some that exist like consequences of you steal or do anything against the law. There where consequences and there still are at a lesser extent if you are lazy and do not work like you do not get to eat or have a roof over your head if you are dirty and do not wash people are gonna avoid you and other that society gives us.</p><p> But things like being impolite while there where consequences before for that things changed and it became a tolerated thing. </p><p> So for example why did my parents wanted for my to make my bed and share. Well it was because they wanted things clean and tidy and because there was not enough food to satisfy everyone appetite. Those where the issues of the environment I lived in so I had to abide by those rules or there where consequences by people why had authority now.</p><p> Now I do not like being tidy and there is enough food to satisfy everyone well if you get to eat before I do or else only after we replenish the food. And also I do not have anyone above me.</p><p> I think all of us when we reach adulthood and see that there will not be any consequence if we do not respect certain behaviors we will stop doing that behavior. Its nice if it becomes a thing we do just because we want to do but not every thing we learn becomes such a thing.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="A dad, post: 675522, member: 18668"] There are no consequences for not doing the useful or proactive behavior. So what happened when I was a child if I did not shared the food well I was punished. What happens now? Well nothing there is no higher authority that can punish me or give me consequences if I do not share. I do have arguments with my wife about this but in the end it does not not go further then that. What happened with my oldest if he was impolite well he got punished so there where consequences but now as a adult well there are none since there is no authority that can give him consequences if he was impolite. See we got artificial consequences as children but as adults some do not exist because nobody had the authority to give you those consequences. Of course some that exist like consequences of you steal or do anything against the law. There where consequences and there still are at a lesser extent if you are lazy and do not work like you do not get to eat or have a roof over your head if you are dirty and do not wash people are gonna avoid you and other that society gives us. But things like being impolite while there where consequences before for that things changed and it became a tolerated thing. So for example why did my parents wanted for my to make my bed and share. Well it was because they wanted things clean and tidy and because there was not enough food to satisfy everyone appetite. Those where the issues of the environment I lived in so I had to abide by those rules or there where consequences by people why had authority now. Now I do not like being tidy and there is enough food to satisfy everyone well if you get to eat before I do or else only after we replenish the food. And also I do not have anyone above me. I think all of us when we reach adulthood and see that there will not be any consequence if we do not respect certain behaviors we will stop doing that behavior. Its nice if it becomes a thing we do just because we want to do but not every thing we learn becomes such a thing. [/QUOTE]
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