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Why does most of the learned behavior in childhood goes away when you are a adult?
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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 675535" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>Children do not learn what we "teach" them. They learn what they see lived before them. Including hidden attitudes that WE think they don't see. If you made them share but didn't love sharing yourself, they got the message that it wasn't a good thing to do in real life. If you were made to be neat and tidy but your parents didn't love making things that way, you learned that being neat and tidy is a chore, and as an adult, you don't see the value.</p><p> </p><p>I learned from example to do things for others - little things, unexpected things. A few cookies on a co-worker's desk. A fancy apron from an unusual store for a friend who loves to cook and loves aprons. Not as birthday or Christmas presents - just "because". It has far more impact (in my opinion). But I also learned from example that "cleaning up" was something you did because company was coming, not as a way of life. I don't like living with the mess, but I never learned to enjoy the process.</p><p> </p><p>Just my opinion, of course.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 675535, member: 11791"] Children do not learn what we "teach" them. They learn what they see lived before them. Including hidden attitudes that WE think they don't see. If you made them share but didn't love sharing yourself, they got the message that it wasn't a good thing to do in real life. If you were made to be neat and tidy but your parents didn't love making things that way, you learned that being neat and tidy is a chore, and as an adult, you don't see the value. I learned from example to do things for others - little things, unexpected things. A few cookies on a co-worker's desk. A fancy apron from an unusual store for a friend who loves to cook and loves aprons. Not as birthday or Christmas presents - just "because". It has far more impact (in my opinion). But I also learned from example that "cleaning up" was something you did because company was coming, not as a way of life. I don't like living with the mess, but I never learned to enjoy the process. Just my opinion, of course. [/QUOTE]
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