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<blockquote data-quote="TeDo" data-source="post: 447434"><p>Don't feel bad. I have tried that with both of mine out of desparation. It didn't work for me either. When he says "I wanted to", maybe ask why he wanted to. I have done that and have found some very interesting impulse control and thinking issues. In the past I have even gone as far as to respond to the "I wanted to" answer with something like "What if I want to (insert something drastic)? I wouldn't do it because (insert your reason). How would you feel if I did that anyway just because I felt like it?" It has worked for me at times but not always. I try to teach how difficult child's actions affect other people then I make him apologize (sincere apology) before sending him to his room to think about what I just said.</p><p></p><p>Sounds like your difficult child still has impulse control issues and doesn't seem to realize how his actions affect others. You could also try asking him how he'd feel if you did what he just did to his brother to him. It takes some effort on my part to get difficult child to think like that but we're getting there.</p><p></p><p>{{{{(((HUGS)))}}}} to you and brother. It can be very difficult but if what you're doing isn't working, it's time to try something else. Keep trying.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TeDo, post: 447434"] Don't feel bad. I have tried that with both of mine out of desparation. It didn't work for me either. When he says "I wanted to", maybe ask why he wanted to. I have done that and have found some very interesting impulse control and thinking issues. In the past I have even gone as far as to respond to the "I wanted to" answer with something like "What if I want to (insert something drastic)? I wouldn't do it because (insert your reason). How would you feel if I did that anyway just because I felt like it?" It has worked for me at times but not always. I try to teach how difficult child's actions affect other people then I make him apologize (sincere apology) before sending him to his room to think about what I just said. Sounds like your difficult child still has impulse control issues and doesn't seem to realize how his actions affect others. You could also try asking him how he'd feel if you did what he just did to his brother to him. It takes some effort on my part to get difficult child to think like that but we're getting there. {{{{(((HUGS)))}}}} to you and brother. It can be very difficult but if what you're doing isn't working, it's time to try something else. Keep trying. [/QUOTE]
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