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Why is it that teachers have such a hard time with communication?
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<blockquote data-quote="eekysign" data-source="post: 231486" data-attributes="member: 6479"><p>Generally speaking (and this is JUST generally speaking! <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /> ), it's possible the teachers are swamped with other duties. They have many children under their care, and team meetings, IEP meetings, after-school activity meetings, dept meetings, grade-meetings---the list goes on and on. </p><p></p><p>Coming from a family where 3 of my 4 parents were teachers, and one of my best friends from college is an elementary school teacher now----god, honestly, we're lucky there's anyone left to teach at all! I'm not saying this is your teacher's problem, but here's what I've heard lately from teachers I know, just as an example. Lord knows, I've had bad teachers in my life, so I'm not defending ALL teachers!!! Your teacher may just be a jerk...but it's also possible it's something like this:</p><p></p><p>My friend is at school from 7:45am to 7pm almost every day, between school, meetings, planning sessions, after-school programs, and just trying to get homework graded. She's got the max number allowed by state in her classroom, and several ED kids now (more than any of the other teachers in her grade, because they've realized how good she is with them), and she struggles constantly to keep her head above water. The administration gives her no support with her students---there are no consequences for behavior problems, no matter what recommendations she makes, or the parents suggest. They come right back down to her classroom, with no additional instructions, no punishments or plans in place. </p><p></p><p>She's got a severely ADHD kid whose Mom is "trying" no medications, but not giving him help/therapy/support in any other way, which is havoc for her classroom. She's got boys she can't send to the bathroom alone (poo-smearing), and girls she can't send to the bathroom with others (fights). She's got kids whose parents CALL their (illegal in school) cell phones to chat DURING the classroom day. The parents apparently don't remember their kids are IN SCHOOL. She's got all our difficult children, not just the *diagnosed* ones. She's got the stealers, the sexually-inappropriate, the liars, and the ragers. She's got kids that attack her with whatever comes to hand--broken pencils, books, desks. She's under 5 foot, and several of her kids are already bigger than she is, at the mid-elementary school level. She doesn't have an aide. No matter how much she talks to the administration, nothing changes. </p><p></p><p>So maybe it's not just forgetting things for your difficult child......it could just be the perfect storm combo of all the stresses from OTHER kids, and nothing to do with you guys at all. Or a lack of support from higher up. Or about a billion other things that are wrong in many areas of the country with education. I'm not knocking down your frustration--you are ABSOLUTELY right to be angry that your child's easily-met needs still AREN'T being met. And hey, maybe you're in a private school and none of this really applies! Hehe. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /> But I know teachers in three separate public school districts in two different states right now. And every single one of them says they wish they'd chosen another profession---not BECAUSE of the kids, they love the kids. My parents, for example, have been teaching for 30 years or so, their students love them, for the most part, too. It's because of the screwed up system itself---they feel like they can't really teach anymore, for a variety of reasons. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /> It *might* be why your teachers aren't giving you what you need. </p><p></p><p>I don't know what to hope for--whether your teachers are just slackers, or whether they're good, but the system is broken. Sigh. Honestly, talking to her---she's just as much a Warrior Teacher as some of you guys are Warrior Moms. She deals with the same types of problems we all have in our homes, but she has the day shift.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="eekysign, post: 231486, member: 6479"] Generally speaking (and this is JUST generally speaking! ;) ), it's possible the teachers are swamped with other duties. They have many children under their care, and team meetings, IEP meetings, after-school activity meetings, dept meetings, grade-meetings---the list goes on and on. Coming from a family where 3 of my 4 parents were teachers, and one of my best friends from college is an elementary school teacher now----god, honestly, we're lucky there's anyone left to teach at all! I'm not saying this is your teacher's problem, but here's what I've heard lately from teachers I know, just as an example. Lord knows, I've had bad teachers in my life, so I'm not defending ALL teachers!!! Your teacher may just be a jerk...but it's also possible it's something like this: My friend is at school from 7:45am to 7pm almost every day, between school, meetings, planning sessions, after-school programs, and just trying to get homework graded. She's got the max number allowed by state in her classroom, and several ED kids now (more than any of the other teachers in her grade, because they've realized how good she is with them), and she struggles constantly to keep her head above water. The administration gives her no support with her students---there are no consequences for behavior problems, no matter what recommendations she makes, or the parents suggest. They come right back down to her classroom, with no additional instructions, no punishments or plans in place. She's got a severely ADHD kid whose Mom is "trying" no medications, but not giving him help/therapy/support in any other way, which is havoc for her classroom. She's got boys she can't send to the bathroom alone (poo-smearing), and girls she can't send to the bathroom with others (fights). She's got kids whose parents CALL their (illegal in school) cell phones to chat DURING the classroom day. The parents apparently don't remember their kids are IN SCHOOL. She's got all our difficult children, not just the *diagnosed* ones. She's got the stealers, the sexually-inappropriate, the liars, and the ragers. She's got kids that attack her with whatever comes to hand--broken pencils, books, desks. She's under 5 foot, and several of her kids are already bigger than she is, at the mid-elementary school level. She doesn't have an aide. No matter how much she talks to the administration, nothing changes. So maybe it's not just forgetting things for your difficult child......it could just be the perfect storm combo of all the stresses from OTHER kids, and nothing to do with you guys at all. Or a lack of support from higher up. Or about a billion other things that are wrong in many areas of the country with education. I'm not knocking down your frustration--you are ABSOLUTELY right to be angry that your child's easily-met needs still AREN'T being met. And hey, maybe you're in a private school and none of this really applies! Hehe. ;) But I know teachers in three separate public school districts in two different states right now. And every single one of them says they wish they'd chosen another profession---not BECAUSE of the kids, they love the kids. My parents, for example, have been teaching for 30 years or so, their students love them, for the most part, too. It's because of the screwed up system itself---they feel like they can't really teach anymore, for a variety of reasons. :( It *might* be why your teachers aren't giving you what you need. I don't know what to hope for--whether your teachers are just slackers, or whether they're good, but the system is broken. Sigh. Honestly, talking to her---she's just as much a Warrior Teacher as some of you guys are Warrior Moms. She deals with the same types of problems we all have in our homes, but she has the day shift. [/QUOTE]
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