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Why must she ruin every holiday? Warning...long, long, vent.
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<blockquote data-quote="katya02" data-source="post: 397050" data-attributes="member: 2884"><p>I'm sorry this has happened right at Christmas - so upsetting and frustrating, and everyone ends up feeling miserable. My mother turned every Christmas into a tortured drama about how terrible we (my sibs and I) all were and how much we made her suffer. It's hard to shake off. I hope, though, that you and SO can compartmentalize for a few days and just leave your difficult child to herself. You deserve a quietly joyful holiday and the chance to celebrate with your loved ones. If your difficult child chooses not to be part of that, it's her choice. </p><p></p><p>It sounds like documenting everything you can, with a view to ending your difficult child's rights with respect to Rae, would be in Rae's best interest. Nothing could be worse than seeing the courts hand Rae back to difficult child, and from my experience with social services, I believe they'd do it in a moment. Anything you can do to prevent that and</p><p>keep your granddaughter in a stable, loving home with your sister in law is worthwhile. As for trying to defend against your difficult child's accusations and lies - it can't really be done on</p><p>a forum like FB. One of my clinical teachers years ago said, "Never get in a spraying match with a skunk. The skunk will always win." Don't worry about what your difficult child's</p><p>current 'friends' think - they'll find out the truth about her soon enough. Take care of yourself and your granddaughter. </p><p>Best wishes and lots of hugs and support, Katya</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="katya02, post: 397050, member: 2884"] I'm sorry this has happened right at Christmas - so upsetting and frustrating, and everyone ends up feeling miserable. My mother turned every Christmas into a tortured drama about how terrible we (my sibs and I) all were and how much we made her suffer. It's hard to shake off. I hope, though, that you and SO can compartmentalize for a few days and just leave your difficult child to herself. You deserve a quietly joyful holiday and the chance to celebrate with your loved ones. If your difficult child chooses not to be part of that, it's her choice. It sounds like documenting everything you can, with a view to ending your difficult child's rights with respect to Rae, would be in Rae's best interest. Nothing could be worse than seeing the courts hand Rae back to difficult child, and from my experience with social services, I believe they'd do it in a moment. Anything you can do to prevent that and keep your granddaughter in a stable, loving home with your sister in law is worthwhile. As for trying to defend against your difficult child's accusations and lies - it can't really be done on a forum like FB. One of my clinical teachers years ago said, "Never get in a spraying match with a skunk. The skunk will always win." Don't worry about what your difficult child's current 'friends' think - they'll find out the truth about her soon enough. Take care of yourself and your granddaughter. Best wishes and lots of hugs and support, Katya [/QUOTE]
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