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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 286512" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>It is so anoying to have to deal with this. We didn't have so many problems with skid marks, but the hand washing was a really big issue for me. Cleaning everything was, to be honest. I don't know if he thought about unflushed matter in the toilet or not. </p><p></p><p>I used to call him from the neighbors and it was a safe walk for kids - we found that the person with the danger behavior toward kids was another neighbor, but one I didn't trust anyway. He just loved to have kids around but HIS kids refused to see him.</p><p></p><p>If I knew that he skipped either flushing or hand washing I waited until he was at the neighbors and just getting started (maybe 3-4 minutes after he left) and then I would call him home again. I told him that the bathroom needed "attending" and left it at that. Many times he would flush and rush out of the house with-o washing his hands. Again I waited for him to just get started and called him home. He was pretty upset by this time. I waited for him to calm, then told him I was very sorry but certain chores simply must be done completely, no wiggling out of it. Then I asked HIM what he hadn't done.</p><p></p><p>I had a checklist in a clear sheet protector taped up to the mirror in front of the bathroom sinks. I would have him go and get it, then come and talk through it. he was told that I would know if he lied and he would earn an extra chore for each lie. Then we went through the checklist. He almost never earned the extra chore for lying. He would admit to not washing his hands, though usually it was when he realized that I was actually going to look at his hands and touch them. Because they were ALWAYS sticky little boy hands,LOL!!!</p><p></p><p>About the fourth or fifth time I did this we had moved to live with my parents so husband could go to grad school. He had started to argue about cleaning up his own skid marks and coming back to wash hands. I had learned to make homemade soap by this time. One of the chores we had him do was to help make the soap that would be used for the hand washing of the skid marks. A bar of homemade lye soap (or a bar of ivory) was what we used. Usually it was a small chunk of homemade soap that was trimmed off of a bar or it was teh end of the bar of soap that was too little to use in the shower. It takes HOURS of stirring to make soap. He never handled the lye, and wore gloves. He used a 4 foot wooden dowel (like a broom handle) and the lye was in the bottom of a 5 gallon bucket. It didn't even use 13 of the bucket so splashing didn't happen. I wanted him to be safe and clean his own underwear, NOT to be injured in any way. </p><p></p><p>After one time of missing the trip to the pool that came up unexpectedly with an offer from his friend's mom, Wiz never again told me that the skid marks were Jessie's, Tyler's or Sammy the Cat's. Yes, he did tell me that the cat caused the skid marks one time. It was also very very VERY HARD to keep a straight face when he came out with "Sammy did it, I didn't."</p><p></p><p>I know the interruptions bothered him. Actually they bugged him a lot. he would yell and scream sometimes. After he calmed I explained that I would continue to do it as long as he continued to not clean the skid marks (I always knew because he changed after any potty break that he saw the stains and then he tossed the dirty undies on the bathroom floor.), not flush, and or not wash his hands. </p><p></p><p>He tested me on it. But he got a LOT better very quick because the other kids always asked him what I kept pestering him about.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 286512, member: 1233"] It is so anoying to have to deal with this. We didn't have so many problems with skid marks, but the hand washing was a really big issue for me. Cleaning everything was, to be honest. I don't know if he thought about unflushed matter in the toilet or not. I used to call him from the neighbors and it was a safe walk for kids - we found that the person with the danger behavior toward kids was another neighbor, but one I didn't trust anyway. He just loved to have kids around but HIS kids refused to see him. If I knew that he skipped either flushing or hand washing I waited until he was at the neighbors and just getting started (maybe 3-4 minutes after he left) and then I would call him home again. I told him that the bathroom needed "attending" and left it at that. Many times he would flush and rush out of the house with-o washing his hands. Again I waited for him to just get started and called him home. He was pretty upset by this time. I waited for him to calm, then told him I was very sorry but certain chores simply must be done completely, no wiggling out of it. Then I asked HIM what he hadn't done. I had a checklist in a clear sheet protector taped up to the mirror in front of the bathroom sinks. I would have him go and get it, then come and talk through it. he was told that I would know if he lied and he would earn an extra chore for each lie. Then we went through the checklist. He almost never earned the extra chore for lying. He would admit to not washing his hands, though usually it was when he realized that I was actually going to look at his hands and touch them. Because they were ALWAYS sticky little boy hands,LOL!!! About the fourth or fifth time I did this we had moved to live with my parents so husband could go to grad school. He had started to argue about cleaning up his own skid marks and coming back to wash hands. I had learned to make homemade soap by this time. One of the chores we had him do was to help make the soap that would be used for the hand washing of the skid marks. A bar of homemade lye soap (or a bar of ivory) was what we used. Usually it was a small chunk of homemade soap that was trimmed off of a bar or it was teh end of the bar of soap that was too little to use in the shower. It takes HOURS of stirring to make soap. He never handled the lye, and wore gloves. He used a 4 foot wooden dowel (like a broom handle) and the lye was in the bottom of a 5 gallon bucket. It didn't even use 13 of the bucket so splashing didn't happen. I wanted him to be safe and clean his own underwear, NOT to be injured in any way. After one time of missing the trip to the pool that came up unexpectedly with an offer from his friend's mom, Wiz never again told me that the skid marks were Jessie's, Tyler's or Sammy the Cat's. Yes, he did tell me that the cat caused the skid marks one time. It was also very very VERY HARD to keep a straight face when he came out with "Sammy did it, I didn't." I know the interruptions bothered him. Actually they bugged him a lot. he would yell and scream sometimes. After he calmed I explained that I would continue to do it as long as he continued to not clean the skid marks (I always knew because he changed after any potty break that he saw the stains and then he tossed the dirty undies on the bathroom floor.), not flush, and or not wash his hands. He tested me on it. But he got a LOT better very quick because the other kids always asked him what I kept pestering him about. [/QUOTE]
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