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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 659268" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>Well, that's the thing I am learning, too. Our sisters seem to do the same things to us that they do to everyone else ~ their mates, their employers, their moms and their own sisters. We need to stop taking them seriously. I don't know why they do what they do. I think they feel badly about themselves, but though they may view us as safe (or maybe that part is a game) they are out to destroy us at the same time.</p><p></p><p>I am sorry those terrible things happened to you, Witz. I don't know what in the world is the matter with people sometimes. Yours is one of the most determinedly harm filled family of origin stories I have heard. </p><p></p><p>They are so horribly mean, so determined to label and pinch and destroy and to never, ever stop or forgive or welcome home.</p><p></p><p>My family are amateurs, compared to yours.</p><p></p><p>Though my sister may be more like your family of origin. She does not seem ever to stop, either.</p><p></p><p>They are bad people.</p><p></p><p>At least we know that, now. We no longer take the blame automatically. It is shocking to me sometimes how often and how completely I did that; how sincerely I tried to create a space where all were welcome.</p><p></p><p>Well, that is good for me that I did those things. </p><p></p><p>Now I know who I am.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 659268, member: 17461"] Well, that's the thing I am learning, too. Our sisters seem to do the same things to us that they do to everyone else ~ their mates, their employers, their moms and their own sisters. We need to stop taking them seriously. I don't know why they do what they do. I think they feel badly about themselves, but though they may view us as safe (or maybe that part is a game) they are out to destroy us at the same time. I am sorry those terrible things happened to you, Witz. I don't know what in the world is the matter with people sometimes. Yours is one of the most determinedly harm filled family of origin stories I have heard. They are so horribly mean, so determined to label and pinch and destroy and to never, ever stop or forgive or welcome home. My family are amateurs, compared to yours. Though my sister may be more like your family of origin. She does not seem ever to stop, either. They are bad people. At least we know that, now. We no longer take the blame automatically. It is shocking to me sometimes how often and how completely I did that; how sincerely I tried to create a space where all were welcome. Well, that is good for me that I did those things. Now I know who I am. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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