well, my son is 26, went to jail for 2 years for drinking and he and a friend punched a person and stole their money, he has been home for two years now, and was ok until about two months ago, he is slipping back into his old routine, gets drunks and threatens, breaks things, was advised to get restraining order. I'm completely useless and discipline, and have no idea what to do. Of course it has been hard to find a job, but he feels sorry for himself, I told him to stop drinking and keep looking, he gives up too easily. The same old story, and now it is mine. Of course I NEVER thought my son would turn out this way. What is tough love ? His younger brother is fine.