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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 149575" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>I stand it as best I can. I can't live every day with the anger that it deserves. I know I can't ever win, they're far too powerful, so the anger is futile.</p><p></p><p>To L it's no big deal. She knows they did this and she knows it isn't true. It's like growing up with an alcoholic parent. It's what you know, so it seems normal. Of course, her dad continuing to give her a $700 a month allowance, cell phone, car, car insurance, and medical insurance doesn't help my cause much.</p><p></p><p>If ever it comes up, which is maybe two or three times in her life, she says "Yes, it was terrible but you shouldn't hold on to those things." I don't. That doesn't mean I will ever be ok with it. It prevents me from doing things other people are free to do because I have to hide it from the world. It won't ever be ok.</p><p></p><p>In fact, she is more supportive of her Dad and SM's support group from the time, because they're wealthy and powerful and she would rather be associated with them in public than with me. Those people very successfully tore me to bits in her eyes. That we see or talk to each other at all is a miracle. </p><p></p><p>She says things like "I can never be in the same room with you and (my dad's ex-girlfriend) the pediatrician that testified against you because you can't stand her." Duh. But <em>I</em> can be in the same room with <em>her</em>. So <em>who's</em> really uncomfortable with that woman? It's <em>the doctor</em> that has run - literally - from the building when I walked into the room. If I wanted, I could have her license yanked, because I can prove that in the molestation accusation that the SM made against me the doctor used white out in her notes to change them from "No redness" to "Mild redness" in L's privates. And forgot to mention that L never said a word except for when the vengeful SM who had taken me to court 3 times before was in the room. I just don't think that it would accomplish what I needed at this point in my life. She'd tell L, and L would hate me. </p><p></p><p>I don't know. Maybe one day L will get it. Maybe after she has kids. But even if that never happens, she's right in that I can't hold on to that. It's just too much.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 149575, member: 99"] I stand it as best I can. I can't live every day with the anger that it deserves. I know I can't ever win, they're far too powerful, so the anger is futile. To L it's no big deal. She knows they did this and she knows it isn't true. It's like growing up with an alcoholic parent. It's what you know, so it seems normal. Of course, her dad continuing to give her a $700 a month allowance, cell phone, car, car insurance, and medical insurance doesn't help my cause much. If ever it comes up, which is maybe two or three times in her life, she says "Yes, it was terrible but you shouldn't hold on to those things." I don't. That doesn't mean I will ever be ok with it. It prevents me from doing things other people are free to do because I have to hide it from the world. It won't ever be ok. In fact, she is more supportive of her Dad and SM's support group from the time, because they're wealthy and powerful and she would rather be associated with them in public than with me. Those people very successfully tore me to bits in her eyes. That we see or talk to each other at all is a miracle. She says things like "I can never be in the same room with you and (my dad's ex-girlfriend) the pediatrician that testified against you because you can't stand her." Duh. But [i]I[/i] can be in the same room with [i]her[/i]. So [i]who's[/i] really uncomfortable with that woman? It's [i]the doctor[/i] that has run - literally - from the building when I walked into the room. If I wanted, I could have her license yanked, because I can prove that in the molestation accusation that the SM made against me the doctor used white out in her notes to change them from "No redness" to "Mild redness" in L's privates. And forgot to mention that L never said a word except for when the vengeful SM who had taken me to court 3 times before was in the room. I just don't think that it would accomplish what I needed at this point in my life. She'd tell L, and L would hate me. I don't know. Maybe one day L will get it. Maybe after she has kids. But even if that never happens, she's right in that I can't hold on to that. It's just too much. [/QUOTE]
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