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<blockquote data-quote="TeDo" data-source="post: 584727" data-attributes="member: 15799"><p>LOL Buddy. difficult child 1 has that skewed sense of fairness in a BIG way too. He chooses to spend most of his free time away from home at his friends' homes. If I do anything "special" with difficult child 2 while he's gone, it isn't fair. If I buy something for difficult child 2, it isn't fair even though I spend money on Boy Scout activities for difficult child 1 and some of those are a lot. I remind him constantly about how I don't spend a penny on difficult child 2's activities because he doesn't have any. All that accomplishes is how that's difficult child 2's own fault and how lazy difficult child 2 is and how he doesn't have any friends and on and on and on. Yea, difficult child 1 got most of my time for several years (only been less for a couple years now) and paid activities for the past couple. He doesn't see it and difficult child 2 is my favorite and it's my fault we're "poor". I finally broke down and told him he's comparing my income as a single parent working part-time with friends that have 2 parents working full-time. I would love it if their "father" (and I used that term ONLY in the legal sense) would pay the $62,000 he owes in child support so we wouldn't have to be "poor". difficult child 1 looked at me and said, "that's a lot of money! If he'd pay that, I could have my car that I want." </p><p></p><p>Susie, I am sorry you have to deal with those kinds of attitudes from the two of them. I know what it's like to be blamed for everyone else's problems in the eyes of a difficult child. It is so skewed and unfair but I gave up wasting my breath, time, and energy even thinking about how unfair it is. It is what it is and I refuse to allow someone else's unreality affect me. I hope you are able to do that as well. ((((HUGS)))) to you!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TeDo, post: 584727, member: 15799"] LOL Buddy. difficult child 1 has that skewed sense of fairness in a BIG way too. He chooses to spend most of his free time away from home at his friends' homes. If I do anything "special" with difficult child 2 while he's gone, it isn't fair. If I buy something for difficult child 2, it isn't fair even though I spend money on Boy Scout activities for difficult child 1 and some of those are a lot. I remind him constantly about how I don't spend a penny on difficult child 2's activities because he doesn't have any. All that accomplishes is how that's difficult child 2's own fault and how lazy difficult child 2 is and how he doesn't have any friends and on and on and on. Yea, difficult child 1 got most of my time for several years (only been less for a couple years now) and paid activities for the past couple. He doesn't see it and difficult child 2 is my favorite and it's my fault we're "poor". I finally broke down and told him he's comparing my income as a single parent working part-time with friends that have 2 parents working full-time. I would love it if their "father" (and I used that term ONLY in the legal sense) would pay the $62,000 he owes in child support so we wouldn't have to be "poor". difficult child 1 looked at me and said, "that's a lot of money! If he'd pay that, I could have my car that I want." Susie, I am sorry you have to deal with those kinds of attitudes from the two of them. I know what it's like to be blamed for everyone else's problems in the eyes of a difficult child. It is so skewed and unfair but I gave up wasting my breath, time, and energy even thinking about how unfair it is. It is what it is and I refuse to allow someone else's unreality affect me. I hope you are able to do that as well. ((((HUGS)))) to you!! [/QUOTE]
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