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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 674622" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>Ok guys, so my phone rings at work this morning, it is my sister, I do not make the un-lady like hand motion towards my phone. <em>I am trying to practice love and joy.</em></p><p>Immediately I think "Oh, oh I hope nothing is wrong with Mom."</p><p></p><p>I say to her "Is everything alright with Mom?" She says, "Yes I just wanted to call, and see how you are doing."</p><p></p><p>Well, I think Mom has been at work trying to negotiate a peace treaty, which is fine. Mom has probably told sis about hubs....</p><p></p><p>So I tell her we are fine, yada, yada, yada. Ask her how she is doing....</p><p>Then I said "I know we have had some words, and I want you to know, I love you very much." She says the same.</p><p>I say "We have been through some very hard times and emotions get strong.</p><p>I have a very big favor to ask of you, I want you to think of me as one of your horses, that you have rescued from the slaughter house."</p><p></p><p>The phone goes a bit silent, awkward pause, then "Well, yes, you have been through a lot in your personal life" So I told her yes, this is true and I am trying my best to be strong and get a hold of myself, but I am just like one of your rescue horses, who is a bit traumatized, but that I would be okay.</p><p>She asked me if I was getting help, with a group or something and I said yes I am (you lovely sisters).</p><p>We chatted a bit and I hung up. Phew.</p><p></p><p>That is that.</p><p>Well, I think I can move on and try my best to balance myself and this relationship with my sister. I do not know what the future will bring, life is short.</p><p></p><p>I am thinking I will not be discussing my d cs with her, or any sad upsetting news.</p><p></p><p>Middle ground.</p><p>No sense cooking a complicated meal with someone who does not want to deal with the cooking of it.</p><p></p><p>I will save all of my intimate feelings and stories for those who can bear to hear them. Give feedback without judgement, and pity.</p><p></p><p>I guess I am detaching that part of myself from my sister.</p><p>She does not want to hear my woes, I do not blame her, it is distressing, I know.</p><p></p><p>I thank you all for understanding my situation and giving me your attention and good advice.</p><p></p><p>So another step discovered. Know when to <em>not share the story</em>.</p><p></p><p>I am a rescue horse, saved from the slaughter, gazing at the open pasture, after being at deaths door.</p><p></p><p></p><p><img src="http://www.healthylivingandtravel.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/01/matthew-seed-the-horse-photographer-home-1920x1080.jpg" alt="" class="fr-fic fr-dii fr-draggable " style="" /></p><p></p><p>leafy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 674622, member: 19522"] Ok guys, so my phone rings at work this morning, it is my sister, I do not make the un-lady like hand motion towards my phone. [I]I am trying to practice love and joy.[/I] Immediately I think "Oh, oh I hope nothing is wrong with Mom." I say to her "Is everything alright with Mom?" She says, "Yes I just wanted to call, and see how you are doing." Well, I think Mom has been at work trying to negotiate a peace treaty, which is fine. Mom has probably told sis about hubs.... So I tell her we are fine, yada, yada, yada. Ask her how she is doing.... Then I said "I know we have had some words, and I want you to know, I love you very much." She says the same. I say "We have been through some very hard times and emotions get strong. I have a very big favor to ask of you, I want you to think of me as one of your horses, that you have rescued from the slaughter house." The phone goes a bit silent, awkward pause, then "Well, yes, you have been through a lot in your personal life" So I told her yes, this is true and I am trying my best to be strong and get a hold of myself, but I am just like one of your rescue horses, who is a bit traumatized, but that I would be okay. She asked me if I was getting help, with a group or something and I said yes I am (you lovely sisters). We chatted a bit and I hung up. Phew. That is that. Well, I think I can move on and try my best to balance myself and this relationship with my sister. I do not know what the future will bring, life is short. I am thinking I will not be discussing my d cs with her, or any sad upsetting news. Middle ground. No sense cooking a complicated meal with someone who does not want to deal with the cooking of it. I will save all of my intimate feelings and stories for those who can bear to hear them. Give feedback without judgement, and pity. I guess I am detaching that part of myself from my sister. She does not want to hear my woes, I do not blame her, it is distressing, I know. I thank you all for understanding my situation and giving me your attention and good advice. So another step discovered. Know when to [I]not share the story[/I]. I am a rescue horse, saved from the slaughter, gazing at the open pasture, after being at deaths door. [IMG]http://www.healthylivingandtravel.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/01/matthew-seed-the-horse-photographer-home-1920x1080.jpg[/IMG] leafy [/QUOTE]
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