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Work and Germany; Benedictines and Buddhists: Attitude
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 673688" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I did not adopt my son and raise him with expectations that he would do or be something specific. </p><p></p><p>I adopted an infant who had suffered already extraordinarily. Both parents used drugs, had mental illnesses and were homeless. They were dying.</p><p></p><p>I wanted to love somebody. That is all. </p><p></p><p>What I am struggling with here is the suffering. His. Mine. Ours. Especially when we are together. I am physically ill when he is around me.</p><p></p><p>I do not need him to love me. Although he does.</p><p></p><p>My needs and wants are only this:</p><p></p><p>I do not want him to suffer. I want to respect him and his choices for his life. I want him to live as long as he is able. I want to be with him in the free and easy way as was the past. I want to enjoy that. I want him to <em>show respect to me</em>. (I know he respects me.) I want to anticipate rather than dread having contact with my son. Who I adore.</p><p></p><p>Is that too much to ask?</p><p></p><p>COPA</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 673688, member: 18958"] I did not adopt my son and raise him with expectations that he would do or be something specific. I adopted an infant who had suffered already extraordinarily. Both parents used drugs, had mental illnesses and were homeless. They were dying. I wanted to love somebody. That is all. What I am struggling with here is the suffering. His. Mine. Ours. Especially when we are together. I am physically ill when he is around me. I do not need him to love me. Although he does. My needs and wants are only this: I do not want him to suffer. I want to respect him and his choices for his life. I want him to live as long as he is able. I want to be with him in the free and easy way as was the past. I want to enjoy that. I want him to [I]show respect to me[/I]. (I know he respects me.) I want to anticipate rather than dread having contact with my son. Who I adore. Is that too much to ask? COPA [/QUOTE]
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