Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
General Discussions
Family of Origin
Work and Germany Part II: Abandonment Recovery
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 673799" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>Yes I think this is true.</p><p></p><p>A signal emotion, close and seamless as a second skin. </p><p></p><p>And the words I heard as I read your words: "Don't you dare. Just don't think. Who do you think you are." Maybe, that is why "That'll do, pig.", struck me as funny, and as safer than what I had been telling myself <em>or what I might learn to tell myself, if I continued to heal.</em></p><p></p><p>A stellar observation, Copa.</p><p></p><p>While I have not felt or seen my mother's valence clearly enough to recognize or counteract it, I have been feeling stupidly unattractive or ridiculous since the most recent excursion into that wordless place we believe to be abandonment. I am aware now that this will happen as we heal, and that it will last for a number of days, and that, if I am attentive and brave, this material will have been reclaimed or redefined is maybe a better term. It is still very awful to go through it.</p><p></p><p>I am sure this signal has been tripped; this place where we dare not claim either our strength or our sexuality. </p><p></p><p>I love the story about M's sister looking in the mirror and finding her beauty. I was reading about the concept "joy luck" today. It is an Oriental concept. Chinese. Maybe, Leafy will know. It has to do with belief in joy and lucky things without guilt, in the way M's sister can celebrate her beauty all by herself like that.</p><p></p><p>joy luck</p><p></p><p>Amy Tan wrote about the concept in a piece on tradition.</p><p></p><p>The Joy Luck Club, by Amy Tan, was about tradition, and breaking tradition, and misunderstanding.</p><p></p><p>***</p><p></p><p>Both these books have to do with healing abandonment issues.</p><p>I haven't read them, yet. They looked very interesting on Amazon.</p><p></p><p>Journey from Abandonment to Healing Anderson</p><p>Black Swan Anderson</p><p></p><p>***</p><p></p><p>I am happy about the jewelry, Copa.</p><p></p><p>That seems to signify something very important. That you can love what you've chosen, now, even once it is yours.</p><p></p><p>I love that for you; love that it happened, for you.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 673799, member: 17461"] Yes I think this is true. A signal emotion, close and seamless as a second skin. And the words I heard as I read your words: "Don't you dare. Just don't think. Who do you think you are." Maybe, that is why "That'll do, pig.", struck me as funny, and as safer than what I had been telling myself [I]or what I might learn to tell myself, if I continued to heal.[/I] A stellar observation, Copa. While I have not felt or seen my mother's valence clearly enough to recognize or counteract it, I have been feeling stupidly unattractive or ridiculous since the most recent excursion into that wordless place we believe to be abandonment. I am aware now that this will happen as we heal, and that it will last for a number of days, and that, if I am attentive and brave, this material will have been reclaimed or redefined is maybe a better term. It is still very awful to go through it. I am sure this signal has been tripped; this place where we dare not claim either our strength or our sexuality. I love the story about M's sister looking in the mirror and finding her beauty. I was reading about the concept "joy luck" today. It is an Oriental concept. Chinese. Maybe, Leafy will know. It has to do with belief in joy and lucky things without guilt, in the way M's sister can celebrate her beauty all by herself like that. joy luck Amy Tan wrote about the concept in a piece on tradition. The Joy Luck Club, by Amy Tan, was about tradition, and breaking tradition, and misunderstanding. *** Both these books have to do with healing abandonment issues. I haven't read them, yet. They looked very interesting on Amazon. Journey from Abandonment to Healing Anderson Black Swan Anderson *** I am happy about the jewelry, Copa. That seems to signify something very important. That you can love what you've chosen, now, even once it is yours. I love that for you; love that it happened, for you. Cedar [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
General Discussions
Family of Origin
Work and Germany Part II: Abandonment Recovery
Top