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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 674025" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>How do you deal with it Leafy? No. I did not know.</p><p></p><p>How would you deal with it? I do not want to go to war with my child.</p><p></p><p>At the same time it is an essential thing that he learn the consequences of his attitudes and his beliefs. If I tolerate it, (which I do not believe I can) it is as if to condone it.</p><p></p><p>The only thing I can think to do is to tell him when he calls how I feel.</p><p></p><p>That it hurts me that he has identified as a target of his suspicion and mistrust a group of people of which I am a member. And that by his expressed attitudes, he adds to a climate of hatred and suspicion, the history of which is malevolent and ugly and brutal. And I am the target. Among them.</p><p></p><p>He will say that it is only some. Or only Israel. Or only Zionism. And I will say, yes. That may be how you think and feel, but the result is against everybody. Including me. And once you start with one race, one ethnic group, where does it end? </p><p></p><p>That I cannot control nor should I, how he believes but I can request that he not talk to me about it. That he protect me from it. Because if he does not. I will protect myself. And it will limit, and is limiting the kind of relationship we have.</p><p></p><p>Is this wrong?</p><p>Yes, I am drinking tea. It always soothes me especially in late afternoon.</p><p></p><p>COPA</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 674025, member: 18958"] How do you deal with it Leafy? No. I did not know. How would you deal with it? I do not want to go to war with my child. At the same time it is an essential thing that he learn the consequences of his attitudes and his beliefs. If I tolerate it, (which I do not believe I can) it is as if to condone it. The only thing I can think to do is to tell him when he calls how I feel. That it hurts me that he has identified as a target of his suspicion and mistrust a group of people of which I am a member. And that by his expressed attitudes, he adds to a climate of hatred and suspicion, the history of which is malevolent and ugly and brutal. And I am the target. Among them. He will say that it is only some. Or only Israel. Or only Zionism. And I will say, yes. That may be how you think and feel, but the result is against everybody. Including me. And once you start with one race, one ethnic group, where does it end? That I cannot control nor should I, how he believes but I can request that he not talk to me about it. That he protect me from it. Because if he does not. I will protect myself. And it will limit, and is limiting the kind of relationship we have. Is this wrong? Yes, I am drinking tea. It always soothes me especially in late afternoon. COPA [/QUOTE]
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