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<blockquote data-quote="Farmingmom" data-source="post: 651498" data-attributes="member: 18789"><p>How wonderful that he's doing so well in a work setting!</p><p></p><p>Boundaries - that's something all of my G F Gs struggle with, especially Kid3. Sounds like this is the perfect time to help yours understand boundaries and how to set some for himself before something becomes a problem. Although I'm sure, if yours is anything like mine, that's a tough abstract lesson to learn. (Heck, I still struggle with setting healthy boundaries for my own life balance.)</p><p></p><p>Kid3 also has trouble talking to anyone about things like this. He'll use me as a crutch to deal with things at the college if I let him. (He can't remember what he should say either.) We started writing down what he needs to say when he first started classes - sometimes even helping him type up a letter to whoever he needs to talk to about whatever. When he can't remember, he has cards to work from or if he gets really flustered, he can hand them the letter. Luckily, most of his professors and the admin staff at the college have come to know him and his 'quirks.' Some of the ladies in the office know him for his cards and letters and think he's such a sweet kid who's just really shy. </p><p></p><p>We've even "rehearsed" conversations he needs to have - like when he has to talk to someone in financial aid. Or when he has to give a speech or presentation. I've found it helps him remember what to say when his articulation problems become an issue. </p><p></p><p>Interestingly, setting up the cards, typing up the letters, and our mock rehearsals over the last couple of years have really helped him to not need those things as much lately. Most of the time nowadays, we do the cards or a letter and he winds up not needing either. But knowing he has them gives him the security he needs. He's even told me once or twice that we didn't need to do cards, he can remember what to say. </p><p></p><p>Whatever works!</p><p></p><p>Keeping good thoughts that you can help him find the right balance between work and school. It's so hard when they're doing good in one area, but suffering in another.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Farmingmom, post: 651498, member: 18789"] How wonderful that he's doing so well in a work setting! Boundaries - that's something all of my G F Gs struggle with, especially Kid3. Sounds like this is the perfect time to help yours understand boundaries and how to set some for himself before something becomes a problem. Although I'm sure, if yours is anything like mine, that's a tough abstract lesson to learn. (Heck, I still struggle with setting healthy boundaries for my own life balance.) Kid3 also has trouble talking to anyone about things like this. He'll use me as a crutch to deal with things at the college if I let him. (He can't remember what he should say either.) We started writing down what he needs to say when he first started classes - sometimes even helping him type up a letter to whoever he needs to talk to about whatever. When he can't remember, he has cards to work from or if he gets really flustered, he can hand them the letter. Luckily, most of his professors and the admin staff at the college have come to know him and his 'quirks.' Some of the ladies in the office know him for his cards and letters and think he's such a sweet kid who's just really shy. We've even "rehearsed" conversations he needs to have - like when he has to talk to someone in financial aid. Or when he has to give a speech or presentation. I've found it helps him remember what to say when his articulation problems become an issue. Interestingly, setting up the cards, typing up the letters, and our mock rehearsals over the last couple of years have really helped him to not need those things as much lately. Most of the time nowadays, we do the cards or a letter and he winds up not needing either. But knowing he has them gives him the security he needs. He's even told me once or twice that we didn't need to do cards, he can remember what to say. Whatever works! Keeping good thoughts that you can help him find the right balance between work and school. It's so hard when they're doing good in one area, but suffering in another. [/QUOTE]
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