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<blockquote data-quote="Malika" data-source="post: 519095" data-attributes="member: 11227"><p>Thanks TeDo, I appreciate the supportive words <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p>I did try talking to J about why I wanted him to wear the helmet, because I did not want him to hurt himself but he just covered his ears with his hands at that point, said "I'm not listening!" and started singing very loudly...</p><p>I have my own need for order, calm and stability. That may seem selfish but it is absolutely part of my reality in being a parent to this particular child; I could wish it different, but it isn't. When J's gfgness suddenly appears (with a vengeance) out of left field, having lain in abeyance for some time, it triggers a particular stress reaction in me. I honestly think for my own sanity and peace of mind, let alone his (though they are connected) I need to walk away and not engage with the unreasonableness of a five year old being difficult and oppositional. </p><p>Interestingly, he did say himself today several times after our ding-dong that he wanted to "be by himself" and did go up to his room at one point. I need to have strategies in place to calm things before they get to that dangerous and destructive point for us both.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Malika, post: 519095, member: 11227"] Thanks TeDo, I appreciate the supportive words :) I did try talking to J about why I wanted him to wear the helmet, because I did not want him to hurt himself but he just covered his ears with his hands at that point, said "I'm not listening!" and started singing very loudly... I have my own need for order, calm and stability. That may seem selfish but it is absolutely part of my reality in being a parent to this particular child; I could wish it different, but it isn't. When J's gfgness suddenly appears (with a vengeance) out of left field, having lain in abeyance for some time, it triggers a particular stress reaction in me. I honestly think for my own sanity and peace of mind, let alone his (though they are connected) I need to walk away and not engage with the unreasonableness of a five year old being difficult and oppositional. Interestingly, he did say himself today several times after our ding-dong that he wanted to "be by himself" and did go up to his room at one point. I need to have strategies in place to calm things before they get to that dangerous and destructive point for us both. [/QUOTE]
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