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<blockquote data-quote="Malika" data-source="post: 519339" data-attributes="member: 11227"><p>No, I don't think J has Asperger's, for all sorts of reasons that I won't go into here. But he definitely likes structure and routine and transitions and change are difficult for him. They are less difficult than they were, and I think this is related the fact that he is less anxious than he was, also related to the fact that his life is more settled and stable than it was. For quite a long time after we came to live in France (after many moves and changes in his life up to then) I couldn't even take a different route home from somewhere without him freaking out. Now I can make a spontaneous change of route or decide to go somewhere different than planned and he will just comment on it without getting upset. </p><p>What I do think though... is that the sensory stuff really plays into his behaviour much more than I or anyone else around is conscious of. His meltdowns happen, generally, when he is tired or hungry or both. I have got better than I was at trying to be aware of this and taking food when I meet him from school at lunch time or in the evening (a piece of cheese or a few nuts, for example) even though we live two minutes away or trying to make sure he doesn't get overtired or stimulated.</p><p>Another trigger I have definitely noticed is that he gets more "difficult" and oppositional when other kids are around (as on Sunday, for example). Happened tonight, for instance. Picked him up from after-school play and he was fine - polite, amenable. He had supper then we went outside to play with a ball for a bit. He played calmly, enjoying himself but not manic. Then my neighbour came out with her little girl and J started "showing off" - being loud, being a bit silly. Then they went in after a bit and he was suddenly really oppositional and difficult, didn't want to come in for his bath, started shouting about wanting to play with his other friend in the village, etc, etc. Having learnt my lesson from yesterday, I said nothing, didn't rise to the fight, just repeated that it was his bathtime in five minutes and he needed to come in. He did eventually come in, groaning and protesting, but he came in.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Malika, post: 519339, member: 11227"] No, I don't think J has Asperger's, for all sorts of reasons that I won't go into here. But he definitely likes structure and routine and transitions and change are difficult for him. They are less difficult than they were, and I think this is related the fact that he is less anxious than he was, also related to the fact that his life is more settled and stable than it was. For quite a long time after we came to live in France (after many moves and changes in his life up to then) I couldn't even take a different route home from somewhere without him freaking out. Now I can make a spontaneous change of route or decide to go somewhere different than planned and he will just comment on it without getting upset. What I do think though... is that the sensory stuff really plays into his behaviour much more than I or anyone else around is conscious of. His meltdowns happen, generally, when he is tired or hungry or both. I have got better than I was at trying to be aware of this and taking food when I meet him from school at lunch time or in the evening (a piece of cheese or a few nuts, for example) even though we live two minutes away or trying to make sure he doesn't get overtired or stimulated. Another trigger I have definitely noticed is that he gets more "difficult" and oppositional when other kids are around (as on Sunday, for example). Happened tonight, for instance. Picked him up from after-school play and he was fine - polite, amenable. He had supper then we went outside to play with a ball for a bit. He played calmly, enjoying himself but not manic. Then my neighbour came out with her little girl and J started "showing off" - being loud, being a bit silly. Then they went in after a bit and he was suddenly really oppositional and difficult, didn't want to come in for his bath, started shouting about wanting to play with his other friend in the village, etc, etc. Having learnt my lesson from yesterday, I said nothing, didn't rise to the fight, just repeated that it was his bathtime in five minutes and he needed to come in. He did eventually come in, groaning and protesting, but he came in. [/QUOTE]
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