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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 427616" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Have you considered Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) as a possibility? Having raised one boy and in the middle of raising another, I can see a lot that is familiar. Goto <a href="http://www.childbrain.com" target="_blank">www.childbrain.com</a> and look for the online Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) test. See if it gives you any clues. </p><p></p><p>Remember, we can't diagnose here, and neither is it appropriate for you to diagnose your own brother, even if you were fully qualified. But you are doing what I did - searching for answers, ANY answers.</p><p></p><p>I'm also from Australia, and depending on where you are, there can be help for both your brother and parents, regardless of the diagnosis. If you're anywhere near Sydney, I would suggest you try to get him referred to Headspace. Or maybe even yourself, if you feel you could do with some counselling support. A Gp referral is needed, and it opens the door to bulk-billed psychology services. My daughter is currently getting support through Headspace in a very practical way, helping her work on her anxiety issues and overcoming them so she can get a job in her chosen career area. They have a range of services. You have to be under 25. Also worth checking out, is Brain & Mind Research Unit. Both of these are university-based, they are not private practices. Actually, connected to one another.</p><p></p><p>Check out your area - if you are not near Sydney, there still may be Headspace or BRMU available in your area. Also check out Beyond Blue - it is all connected, the same research team involved. I normally will not recommend any specific service, but this mob go beyond specific services. They are setting the benchmark for a generic management method across the country, thanks to the mental health funding in our new budget. </p><p></p><p>The service is there - use it. But getting your parents on side will be more difficult. Sometimes it's easier to live in denial, than to actually accept there could be a problem.</p><p></p><p>I had a similar issue to you, with my concerns for my sister's son. The boy was not doing well and my sister was in denial. My mother and another sister would get their heads together and have a gossip session about him, but I went over and challenged my sister about her son. At first she screamed at me, said it wasn't fair, we were all picking on her and mum and our other sister had put me up to it. I finally said to her, "They did not put me up to anything, I would rather be wrong. But I need to KNOW. I think, at some level, so do you. How about you secretly get him assessed, don't tell Mum, and then when the tests come back negative you can rub Mum's nose in it?"</p><p></p><p>She accepted that and began to make arrangements, but realised that she did need Mum's support and began to accept that perhaps there was a problem after all. He was subsequently diagnosed with some mild developmental delay due to oxygen starvation at birth. </p><p></p><p>I was still a kid myself, and felt I had no respect from anyone. it is difficult to be an advocate under those circumstances.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 427616, member: 1991"] Have you considered Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) as a possibility? Having raised one boy and in the middle of raising another, I can see a lot that is familiar. Goto [url]www.childbrain.com[/url] and look for the online Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) test. See if it gives you any clues. Remember, we can't diagnose here, and neither is it appropriate for you to diagnose your own brother, even if you were fully qualified. But you are doing what I did - searching for answers, ANY answers. I'm also from Australia, and depending on where you are, there can be help for both your brother and parents, regardless of the diagnosis. If you're anywhere near Sydney, I would suggest you try to get him referred to Headspace. Or maybe even yourself, if you feel you could do with some counselling support. A Gp referral is needed, and it opens the door to bulk-billed psychology services. My daughter is currently getting support through Headspace in a very practical way, helping her work on her anxiety issues and overcoming them so she can get a job in her chosen career area. They have a range of services. You have to be under 25. Also worth checking out, is Brain & Mind Research Unit. Both of these are university-based, they are not private practices. Actually, connected to one another. Check out your area - if you are not near Sydney, there still may be Headspace or BRMU available in your area. Also check out Beyond Blue - it is all connected, the same research team involved. I normally will not recommend any specific service, but this mob go beyond specific services. They are setting the benchmark for a generic management method across the country, thanks to the mental health funding in our new budget. The service is there - use it. But getting your parents on side will be more difficult. Sometimes it's easier to live in denial, than to actually accept there could be a problem. I had a similar issue to you, with my concerns for my sister's son. The boy was not doing well and my sister was in denial. My mother and another sister would get their heads together and have a gossip session about him, but I went over and challenged my sister about her son. At first she screamed at me, said it wasn't fair, we were all picking on her and mum and our other sister had put me up to it. I finally said to her, "They did not put me up to anything, I would rather be wrong. But I need to KNOW. I think, at some level, so do you. How about you secretly get him assessed, don't tell Mum, and then when the tests come back negative you can rub Mum's nose in it?" She accepted that and began to make arrangements, but realised that she did need Mum's support and began to accept that perhaps there was a problem after all. He was subsequently diagnosed with some mild developmental delay due to oxygen starvation at birth. I was still a kid myself, and felt I had no respect from anyone. it is difficult to be an advocate under those circumstances. Marg [/QUOTE]
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