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<blockquote data-quote="rlsnights" data-source="post: 309660" data-attributes="member: 7948"><p>Thanks for the replies.</p><p></p><p>yes, that was exactly our thought = boys will be boys. To some extent this stuff is normal. It's one of the main things boys have to do during adolescence - harness their aggression in effective and appropriate ways.</p><p></p><p>what's over the top is threatening to kill people while waving a weapon around.</p><p></p><p>figuring out who hit who first was not in the cards on Saturday. accusations flew fast and furious and we figured it didn't matter. Both boys got physical when either could have walked away. So both are in the wrong. But difficult child 2 is still way too fragile for me to even bring Saturday up - it triggers him right back into the rage. So we will have to wait a while to address some of this stuff. Hopefully the medications will kick in quickly and give him back his frontal lobe.</p><p></p><p>We don't have anything like the kind of police service you are describing. Cuts and more cuts to our police force mean that interventions like that are a luxury. So I'm keeping him home for now as much as possible and counting on the medication fairy to lend a helping hand ASAP.</p><p></p><p>We know EMLA well. But my son has not found it helpful and as you say, it definitely has it's draw backs. For difficult child 2 taking off the bandaging covering it is more painful to him than the blood draw usually ends up being. It's just sometimes we find ourselves skating on thin ice and have to tread gently. I also have a 2 strikes rule. If the tech can't get him in 2 tries (or 1 if they went digging) a new tech needs to be called. We only allow the new tech one try unless it's practically life or death that the blood draw be done that day.</p><p></p><p>Having these rules has helped my son manage his anxiety a lot.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="rlsnights, post: 309660, member: 7948"] Thanks for the replies. yes, that was exactly our thought = boys will be boys. To some extent this stuff is normal. It's one of the main things boys have to do during adolescence - harness their aggression in effective and appropriate ways. what's over the top is threatening to kill people while waving a weapon around. figuring out who hit who first was not in the cards on Saturday. accusations flew fast and furious and we figured it didn't matter. Both boys got physical when either could have walked away. So both are in the wrong. But difficult child 2 is still way too fragile for me to even bring Saturday up - it triggers him right back into the rage. So we will have to wait a while to address some of this stuff. Hopefully the medications will kick in quickly and give him back his frontal lobe. We don't have anything like the kind of police service you are describing. Cuts and more cuts to our police force mean that interventions like that are a luxury. So I'm keeping him home for now as much as possible and counting on the medication fairy to lend a helping hand ASAP. We know EMLA well. But my son has not found it helpful and as you say, it definitely has it's draw backs. For difficult child 2 taking off the bandaging covering it is more painful to him than the blood draw usually ends up being. It's just sometimes we find ourselves skating on thin ice and have to tread gently. I also have a 2 strikes rule. If the tech can't get him in 2 tries (or 1 if they went digging) a new tech needs to be called. We only allow the new tech one try unless it's practically life or death that the blood draw be done that day. Having these rules has helped my son manage his anxiety a lot. [/QUOTE]
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