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<blockquote data-quote="believe" data-source="post: 671510" data-attributes="member: 19652"><p>Hi toughlovin.....oh how i HEAR every word you are saying....I had almost the exact same thing this past week with my 26 yr old son.....mine is a little different......I have already cut off all help in any way.....he is tested clean and is drug free ( so I'm told by my ex husband) ....but because of the disrespect he has been removed from both my home and now his dads so now MUST live on his own somehow/someway...it is completely 100% up to him now....he was in his car one night i think (not sure)...then, like you, I saw on fb that he had gone to a friends apt....and he too is very down about the loss of his girlfriend but what I have come to realize is that if it wasn't that loss it would be something else with him...another new reason not to work and become an adult....in my case i see that he tends to use these things as a crutch to need "help" from whoever will give it to him...I do not call him or text him...my sons (his brothers who are both older than him sat me down and said "mom you HAVE to let him go" and so I am letting go.....I do go on fb and see what he writes however i have chosen not to answer....I think in my case it is the better way...but i do believe that each one of our roads is individual....and we all must decide how to navigate it.....I just know that my son had been very successful in manipulating me so I am letting my older (and probably even wiser) sons lead this now....but toughlovin I HEAR everything you are saying because this stand I have taken does NOT mean that I don't cry buckets and worry everyday...but like you I am going about what I would normally do with my day...I just got back from the gym (something I enjoy) and my husband and I go to Florida for Jan and Feb every year and I have decided to go.....still my heart will be here praying everyday for my youngest son ......and yes I think the same thing...is there an end to this......chin up ...Believe</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="believe, post: 671510, member: 19652"] Hi toughlovin.....oh how i HEAR every word you are saying....I had almost the exact same thing this past week with my 26 yr old son.....mine is a little different......I have already cut off all help in any way.....he is tested clean and is drug free ( so I'm told by my ex husband) ....but because of the disrespect he has been removed from both my home and now his dads so now MUST live on his own somehow/someway...it is completely 100% up to him now....he was in his car one night i think (not sure)...then, like you, I saw on fb that he had gone to a friends apt....and he too is very down about the loss of his girlfriend but what I have come to realize is that if it wasn't that loss it would be something else with him...another new reason not to work and become an adult....in my case i see that he tends to use these things as a crutch to need "help" from whoever will give it to him...I do not call him or text him...my sons (his brothers who are both older than him sat me down and said "mom you HAVE to let him go" and so I am letting go.....I do go on fb and see what he writes however i have chosen not to answer....I think in my case it is the better way...but i do believe that each one of our roads is individual....and we all must decide how to navigate it.....I just know that my son had been very successful in manipulating me so I am letting my older (and probably even wiser) sons lead this now....but toughlovin I HEAR everything you are saying because this stand I have taken does NOT mean that I don't cry buckets and worry everyday...but like you I am going about what I would normally do with my day...I just got back from the gym (something I enjoy) and my husband and I go to Florida for Jan and Feb every year and I have decided to go.....still my heart will be here praying everyday for my youngest son ......and yes I think the same thing...is there an end to this......chin up ...Believe [/QUOTE]
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