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Would difficult child be better off not staying at my house?
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 526408" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>What does dad do to discipline that may make him better there, if he actually is? Does he hit him? Scream and swear at him? Does he like his father (not love...like) and stepmother? Are there other kids there and how does he interact with them?</p><p></p><p>I think that if ex is telling the 100% truth and he is better there, then maybe they do have something to offer...at least until he gets comfortable there <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> If you have him a lot more than ex, maybe that's it. If so, however, and he sees the behavior, he will probably HAVE to agree to do something to help your child. </p><p></p><p>I would not change custody. That's too drastic. But if you want a vacation and to see how it goes, I say go for it. Also, I guarantee that you could handle a easy child eight year old. Ex is talking about a very difficult child. It is very hard for one person to do that alone. However, my attitude is...if you want and think it is best, give it a try and see. But think about how your child feels about his father and his stepmother before doing it. And think about the kind of discipline they use. I am leery, like SusieStar. What does authoratative mean to your ex? Hitting your child and scaring him into compliance will not help him or, in the long run, stop him from getting into trouble. I read once that authoratative parenting produces the most troubled teens. Think about it.</p><p></p><p>My daugher's boyfriend is from a VERY strict home. It's their way or the highway and in my opinion they are very abusive, even without hitting him. He is never home now that he is 18 and is going away to college next year (he is paying himself). He claims to hate them both and says he is never going back. And he's a easy child!!!! That is NOT a good style of parenting!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 526408, member: 1550"] What does dad do to discipline that may make him better there, if he actually is? Does he hit him? Scream and swear at him? Does he like his father (not love...like) and stepmother? Are there other kids there and how does he interact with them? I think that if ex is telling the 100% truth and he is better there, then maybe they do have something to offer...at least until he gets comfortable there :) If you have him a lot more than ex, maybe that's it. If so, however, and he sees the behavior, he will probably HAVE to agree to do something to help your child. I would not change custody. That's too drastic. But if you want a vacation and to see how it goes, I say go for it. Also, I guarantee that you could handle a easy child eight year old. Ex is talking about a very difficult child. It is very hard for one person to do that alone. However, my attitude is...if you want and think it is best, give it a try and see. But think about how your child feels about his father and his stepmother before doing it. And think about the kind of discipline they use. I am leery, like SusieStar. What does authoratative mean to your ex? Hitting your child and scaring him into compliance will not help him or, in the long run, stop him from getting into trouble. I read once that authoratative parenting produces the most troubled teens. Think about it. My daugher's boyfriend is from a VERY strict home. It's their way or the highway and in my opinion they are very abusive, even without hitting him. He is never home now that he is 18 and is going away to college next year (he is paying himself). He claims to hate them both and says he is never going back. And he's a easy child!!!! That is NOT a good style of parenting! [/QUOTE]
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