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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 325852" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>Shari, I never went after the man for CS. When difficult child was incarcerated, Department of Juvenile Justice filed for CS from me and dss CS division automatically became involved. The court knows who the father is because the require the mother to tell them- even if there has not been a blood test. (When the legal system is involved here, they list the father and he has to prove he's not- and so far, he has refused to take a blood test.) Being that difficult child already knew most of the facts, I did ask him then how much he wanted me to push for dss to go after his father for CS- or if he wanted to just let it go and not really tell them anything. He said he wanted me to pursue it as much as possible. I tend to think his anger is part of working thru it- kind of like the stages of grief. I don't think he's going to be stuck in hatred or bitter all his life. I have also explained to difficult child that some people just aren't capable of bonding with other people the way most can, when he asked why/how his father could do this to his own child.</p><p></p><p>My son is almost 15yo so I think he's at a different stage in this than your wee one.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 325852, member: 3699"] Shari, I never went after the man for CS. When difficult child was incarcerated, Department of Juvenile Justice filed for CS from me and dss CS division automatically became involved. The court knows who the father is because the require the mother to tell them- even if there has not been a blood test. (When the legal system is involved here, they list the father and he has to prove he's not- and so far, he has refused to take a blood test.) Being that difficult child already knew most of the facts, I did ask him then how much he wanted me to push for dss to go after his father for CS- or if he wanted to just let it go and not really tell them anything. He said he wanted me to pursue it as much as possible. I tend to think his anger is part of working thru it- kind of like the stages of grief. I don't think he's going to be stuck in hatred or bitter all his life. I have also explained to difficult child that some people just aren't capable of bonding with other people the way most can, when he asked why/how his father could do this to his own child. My son is almost 15yo so I think he's at a different stage in this than your wee one. [/QUOTE]
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