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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 162432" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>Sounds like Tink is experimenting with how fear can get her what she wants. "If I say I am afraid, where will that take me. Will that get me what I want?"</p><p> </p><p>She was just trying to find a way to see her dad. She was looking for an excuse to get you to help her get what she wants. She didn't know enough to just ask, "Mom, can I visist Dad?" It's like she felt she had to have her reasons ready. She must have lots of feelings about her relationship with her dad. </p><p> </p><p>I notice she then used a "I am afraid" statement to get your attention at bed time. This can be a real fear for a kid her age, especially if she heard something on the news. You may want to talk to her about how to handle real fears. "When we are afraid, we are more cautious however, we need to look for ways to overcome our fears. You know I would never hurt you. You know that I will keep you safe - we have a safe home - you do not need to worry about robbers."</p><p> </p><p>The others are correct in their responses. Just look at this as another way she is trying to get her way.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 162432, member: 5096"] Sounds like Tink is experimenting with how fear can get her what she wants. "If I say I am afraid, where will that take me. Will that get me what I want?" She was just trying to find a way to see her dad. She was looking for an excuse to get you to help her get what she wants. She didn't know enough to just ask, "Mom, can I visist Dad?" It's like she felt she had to have her reasons ready. She must have lots of feelings about her relationship with her dad. I notice she then used a "I am afraid" statement to get your attention at bed time. This can be a real fear for a kid her age, especially if she heard something on the news. You may want to talk to her about how to handle real fears. "When we are afraid, we are more cautious however, we need to look for ways to overcome our fears. You know I would never hurt you. You know that I will keep you safe - we have a safe home - you do not need to worry about robbers." The others are correct in their responses. Just look at this as another way she is trying to get her way. [/QUOTE]
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