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<blockquote data-quote="Shari" data-source="post: 173288" data-attributes="member: 1848"><p>For us, holidays and other "special events" are very hard. We've learned to deal with them differently so they aren't so bad, but in general, yeah, the difficult child-ness escalates.</p><p> </p><p>We downplay holidays like Christmas. difficult child knows the tree can go up around Thanksgiving, so that's a given activity that takes place on Thanksgiving, even if we are all dead tired. Otherwise, he obsesses over it. Presents don't go under the tree, or even get mentioned, until a couple of days before Christmas. Again, prevents obsessing. As he becomes more aware of dates/days, etc, this will be more of an issue, but we just leave Christmas day as some abstract day in the future, which helps for now.</p><p> </p><p>I also keep a box of bribes in my closet. New little toys and activities. For things like weddings, etc, I make sure to throw a few in my bag so I can bribe my way thru it, if I need to. He was the ringbearer in my neice's wedding. We talked it up for weeks before hand, even went to churches and practiced. I carried a bag of bribes and did nothing but basically cater to him. I even hired a kid to follow us around and pick up all his stuff (when he was ready to move to the next activity, we went - the goal was ZERO frustration - I didn't even pick up the stuff, we just flew - the "follower" picked up everything) it cost a pretty penny, but, for that penny, he wore MOST of his tux (refused the pants, so he wore plaid shorts that accidentally matched, and no shoes LOL), my neice got her ringbearer, PICTURES, and they still talk about the "miracle" I worked that day 3 years ago. I still recall the he!! it was to make that happen. lol But I won't tell her that.</p><p> </p><p>Anyway, I'm rambling, but the point is, likely you can figure out ways to make it easier on yourself, but they'll probably always require extra planning.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Shari, post: 173288, member: 1848"] For us, holidays and other "special events" are very hard. We've learned to deal with them differently so they aren't so bad, but in general, yeah, the difficult child-ness escalates. We downplay holidays like Christmas. difficult child knows the tree can go up around Thanksgiving, so that's a given activity that takes place on Thanksgiving, even if we are all dead tired. Otherwise, he obsesses over it. Presents don't go under the tree, or even get mentioned, until a couple of days before Christmas. Again, prevents obsessing. As he becomes more aware of dates/days, etc, this will be more of an issue, but we just leave Christmas day as some abstract day in the future, which helps for now. I also keep a box of bribes in my closet. New little toys and activities. For things like weddings, etc, I make sure to throw a few in my bag so I can bribe my way thru it, if I need to. He was the ringbearer in my neice's wedding. We talked it up for weeks before hand, even went to churches and practiced. I carried a bag of bribes and did nothing but basically cater to him. I even hired a kid to follow us around and pick up all his stuff (when he was ready to move to the next activity, we went - the goal was ZERO frustration - I didn't even pick up the stuff, we just flew - the "follower" picked up everything) it cost a pretty penny, but, for that penny, he wore MOST of his tux (refused the pants, so he wore plaid shorts that accidentally matched, and no shoes LOL), my neice got her ringbearer, PICTURES, and they still talk about the "miracle" I worked that day 3 years ago. I still recall the he!! it was to make that happen. lol But I won't tell her that. Anyway, I'm rambling, but the point is, likely you can figure out ways to make it easier on yourself, but they'll probably always require extra planning. [/QUOTE]
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