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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 345946" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>It is a very long and complex list. I think it's the sort of thing that needs to be developed, rather than simply assigned from on high like the tablets God gave to Moses.</p><p></p><p>Some of it obviously needs to be assigned form on high - the PO expectations, for a start. Janet's rules look good to me - they cover a great deal. </p><p></p><p>All else - I would involve him in setting them up, because the more input he has, the more invested he is likely to be in following through. He's been incarcerated for a while, during which time other people tell you when to shower, when you can go to the toilet, etc. He needs to have some self-determination in this. You could sit and discuss this, but whatever he suggests he will do, write it down. If he asks for suggestions, run your list past him and see what he agrees to. Those are the things HE has then chosen to do.</p><p></p><p>He's going to have some adjustments to make in coming home, including how he treats other people. It's not exactly a normal home environment he has been in.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 345946, member: 1991"] It is a very long and complex list. I think it's the sort of thing that needs to be developed, rather than simply assigned from on high like the tablets God gave to Moses. Some of it obviously needs to be assigned form on high - the PO expectations, for a start. Janet's rules look good to me - they cover a great deal. All else - I would involve him in setting them up, because the more input he has, the more invested he is likely to be in following through. He's been incarcerated for a while, during which time other people tell you when to shower, when you can go to the toilet, etc. He needs to have some self-determination in this. You could sit and discuss this, but whatever he suggests he will do, write it down. If he asks for suggestions, run your list past him and see what he agrees to. Those are the things HE has then chosen to do. He's going to have some adjustments to make in coming home, including how he treats other people. It's not exactly a normal home environment he has been in. Marg [/QUOTE]
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