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<blockquote data-quote="DaisyFace" data-source="post: 346165" data-attributes="member: 6546"><p>K--</p><p> </p><p>As I read your proposed chart here...(and I was not against a long chart)...I feel like your chart has a few problems.</p><p> </p><p>I think it is vague where it needs to be clear....and overly specific where it should be more generalized.</p><p> </p><p>For starters--you have serious rules (like drinking smoking and getting suspended from school) mixed in among lesser evils such as playing "T" rated video games without permission. I think you need to prioritze with your "Deal Breakers" at the top of the list.</p><p> </p><p>eg: </p><p> </p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><strong>House Rules:</strong></span> </p><p> </p><p>NO VIOLENCE</p><p>NO STEALING</p><p>NO DRINKING, DRUGS, ALCOHOL</p><p>NO LEAVING WITHOUT PERMISSION</p><p>DO NOT VIOLATE PAROLE</p><p> </p><p>Then if you need to specify a few responsibilites, make it the next section. As in:</p><p> </p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><strong>Responsibilities:</strong></span></p><p> </p><p>Maintain passing grades</p><p>Cutting grass</p><p>Taking out garbage</p><p>Laundry</p><p> </p><p>Misc chores as needed, requested.</p><p> </p><p> </p><p>Know what I mean?? And I agree with the others about keeping rewards vague and OFF this list. That way you can say--Wow! it's been a heck of a week....go ahead to a friends house for the night. Or you can say--Sorry. the yard needs mowing/raking/weeding/trimming. You'll have to get that done over the weekend instead of having free time. Don't box yourself in ahead of time.</p><p> </p><p>And you're really not prepared to go twenty rounds over a video-game rating, are you? Or a phone call that lasts until 9:35 instead of 9:30? I think you should drop the little stuff and simply note that you, as the Mom, are to be respected. That means (among other things) that you will not be subjected to offensive material in your own home....including porn, violent or graphic video games, violent/graphic movies and cussing/vulgar language. And when you say--Please get off the phone. It's time to get off the phone.</p><p> </p><p>Simplify. It will be fine.</p><p> </p><p>--DaisyFace</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DaisyFace, post: 346165, member: 6546"] K-- As I read your proposed chart here...(and I was not against a long chart)...I feel like your chart has a few problems. I think it is vague where it needs to be clear....and overly specific where it should be more generalized. For starters--you have serious rules (like drinking smoking and getting suspended from school) mixed in among lesser evils such as playing "T" rated video games without permission. I think you need to prioritze with your "Deal Breakers" at the top of the list. eg: [SIZE=3][B]House Rules:[/B][/SIZE] NO VIOLENCE NO STEALING NO DRINKING, DRUGS, ALCOHOL NO LEAVING WITHOUT PERMISSION DO NOT VIOLATE PAROLE Then if you need to specify a few responsibilites, make it the next section. As in: [SIZE=3][B]Responsibilities:[/B][/SIZE] Maintain passing grades Cutting grass Taking out garbage Laundry Misc chores as needed, requested. Know what I mean?? And I agree with the others about keeping rewards vague and OFF this list. That way you can say--Wow! it's been a heck of a week....go ahead to a friends house for the night. Or you can say--Sorry. the yard needs mowing/raking/weeding/trimming. You'll have to get that done over the weekend instead of having free time. Don't box yourself in ahead of time. And you're really not prepared to go twenty rounds over a video-game rating, are you? Or a phone call that lasts until 9:35 instead of 9:30? I think you should drop the little stuff and simply note that you, as the Mom, are to be respected. That means (among other things) that you will not be subjected to offensive material in your own home....including porn, violent or graphic video games, violent/graphic movies and cussing/vulgar language. And when you say--Please get off the phone. It's time to get off the phone. Simplify. It will be fine. --DaisyFace [/QUOTE]
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