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Yet another meeting with Borderline (BPD) team
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<blockquote data-quote="Simion" data-source="post: 762264" data-attributes="member: 29037"><p>Well that went well. NOT! Another ride Borderline (BPD) Ferris wheel. Tried to go forth with the plan I had be calm acknowledge although I know much about intellectually Borderline (BPD), I do not know the communication skills needed to be helpful. Couldn’t even get the entire thought out & she pounced like a jaguar. She had her own agenda & wanted to get her way. As far as she was concerned things were fine between us till I lost it over grocery bags. Her perception, not about to argue. Mad that she was not invited to go on vacation with her sisters & I. From my perspective I didn’t want to go on vacation & have the drama and rage that comes with her. Last time I took her on vacation, she went off screaming how she’d like to stab her sister. She is so impaired she can’t understand what one has to do with the other. Real world consequences. I tried to be validating of her feeling, expressing that I see how she would feel left out, sad angry. That set her off more. She wouldn’t have to feel that way if I didn’t do this to her. The wheel spun faster when I would not give her an answer about vacation. I wanted to know what could we both do to make this relationship better. I asked her treatment provider if she knew of anyone who specialized in Borderline (BPD). I was asking for myself. Someone who works with family members. I couldn’t even finish she was pissed , jumping to I was not going to change her therapist.</p><p>Nothing accomplished. The in-home mentor thought it was positive that we spoke. I wondered if she was in the same room. I know my daughter thinks all’s good. Even as she threw out some nasty comment as I left. </p><p> So over all of this! Sometimes I wish I could just hate her and be done with her for good. If anyone else did or said 1/1000 of the things she has they’d be dust in the wind without a second thought. I walked away from my entire family as they were so toxic & abusive. But my child….</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Simion, post: 762264, member: 29037"] Well that went well. NOT! Another ride Borderline (BPD) Ferris wheel. Tried to go forth with the plan I had be calm acknowledge although I know much about intellectually Borderline (BPD), I do not know the communication skills needed to be helpful. Couldn’t even get the entire thought out & she pounced like a jaguar. She had her own agenda & wanted to get her way. As far as she was concerned things were fine between us till I lost it over grocery bags. Her perception, not about to argue. Mad that she was not invited to go on vacation with her sisters & I. From my perspective I didn’t want to go on vacation & have the drama and rage that comes with her. Last time I took her on vacation, she went off screaming how she’d like to stab her sister. She is so impaired she can’t understand what one has to do with the other. Real world consequences. I tried to be validating of her feeling, expressing that I see how she would feel left out, sad angry. That set her off more. She wouldn’t have to feel that way if I didn’t do this to her. The wheel spun faster when I would not give her an answer about vacation. I wanted to know what could we both do to make this relationship better. I asked her treatment provider if she knew of anyone who specialized in Borderline (BPD). I was asking for myself. Someone who works with family members. I couldn’t even finish she was pissed , jumping to I was not going to change her therapist. Nothing accomplished. The in-home mentor thought it was positive that we spoke. I wondered if she was in the same room. I know my daughter thinks all’s good. Even as she threw out some nasty comment as I left. So over all of this! Sometimes I wish I could just hate her and be done with her for good. If anyone else did or said 1/1000 of the things she has they’d be dust in the wind without a second thought. I walked away from my entire family as they were so toxic & abusive. But my child…. [/QUOTE]
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