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You guys told me-- D C always come back--Please advise
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<blockquote data-quote="SeekingStrength" data-source="post: 658736" data-attributes="member: 17635"><p>Thanks, Albatross. I have not texted yet. I still go over a loooonnnngggg litany of things I want to say, lol. while knowing I should not.</p><p></p><p>The thing is, when he texted husband and me a week ago with <em>I love you's</em>, I firmly believe he was just setting the stage for this morning. He may have even thought, <em>I'll go a week before contacting them again</em>. When he used to ask for money, he would <strong>always</strong> call/text first with something he read in the news, etc. Setting the stage, so to say. We always knew to expect a plea for help in the next few hours. It has been a pattern.</p><p></p><p>My heart hurts for him. Meaness/mental illness/addiction. A little/lot of each. And, nothing husband and I have offered has helped one iota.</p><p></p><p>husband and I are battening down for what comes next and our tools include so much we have learned here. Sit on our lips, keep our side of the street clean, keep it short & sweet, boundaries, write down what we will say.</p><p></p><p>Today, we did okay. I probably had 4 hours sleep last night, tops. husband did all the driving to a state park about an hour from here. We each had coffee and lemon icebox pie with a gorgeous mountain view. and, guess what, at the next table was a former college roommate and her husband! I kid you not!! Have not seen her since 1977. I was showing husband FB photos, asking him<em> Does that person look like this photo</em>? He kinda thought so, so I walked over and asked. We had a nice 30 min visit with tentative plans to meet up soon. That was a wonderfully unexpected surprise.</p><p></p><p>A feral cat we sometimes see crossing our yard suddenly appeared pregnant a few days ago. We started putting out food and water and milk each day and she devours it. She is lounging on the patio right now. We don't need more cats, but it does our hearts good to help a creature that benefits from our offer.</p><p></p><p>Another thing, hours from those texts has brought so much more clarity. I guess, with a good night's sleep, tomorrow will even be clearer.</p><p></p><p>I love this forum. Two years ago, I dare say husband and I would be freaking out, rushing into to try to "help" Difficult Child once again - to no avail.</p><p></p><p>SS</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SeekingStrength, post: 658736, member: 17635"] Thanks, Albatross. I have not texted yet. I still go over a loooonnnngggg litany of things I want to say, lol. while knowing I should not. The thing is, when he texted husband and me a week ago with [I]I love you's[/I], I firmly believe he was just setting the stage for this morning. He may have even thought, [I]I'll go a week before contacting them again[/I]. When he used to ask for money, he would [B]always[/B] call/text first with something he read in the news, etc. Setting the stage, so to say. We always knew to expect a plea for help in the next few hours. It has been a pattern. My heart hurts for him. Meaness/mental illness/addiction. A little/lot of each. And, nothing husband and I have offered has helped one iota. husband and I are battening down for what comes next and our tools include so much we have learned here. Sit on our lips, keep our side of the street clean, keep it short & sweet, boundaries, write down what we will say. Today, we did okay. I probably had 4 hours sleep last night, tops. husband did all the driving to a state park about an hour from here. We each had coffee and lemon icebox pie with a gorgeous mountain view. and, guess what, at the next table was a former college roommate and her husband! I kid you not!! Have not seen her since 1977. I was showing husband FB photos, asking him[I] Does that person look like this photo[/I]? He kinda thought so, so I walked over and asked. We had a nice 30 min visit with tentative plans to meet up soon. That was a wonderfully unexpected surprise. A feral cat we sometimes see crossing our yard suddenly appeared pregnant a few days ago. We started putting out food and water and milk each day and she devours it. She is lounging on the patio right now. We don't need more cats, but it does our hearts good to help a creature that benefits from our offer. Another thing, hours from those texts has brought so much more clarity. I guess, with a good night's sleep, tomorrow will even be clearer. I love this forum. Two years ago, I dare say husband and I would be freaking out, rushing into to try to "help" Difficult Child once again - to no avail. SS [/QUOTE]
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