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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 372454" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Part of Collaborative Problem Solving involves you talking to him, but another big part involves him talking to you. It should be discussion and compromise.</p><p></p><p>What does he say about his reasons for not wanting to wear underwear? I remember having the opportunity to buy some pure silk boxers for difficult child 1. He loved them because they gave him the sense of freedom, but he was still decently covered. Other good fabrics are cotton jersey, synthetic silky fabrics, lightweight cheesecloth-type fabric. Boxer shorts are simple to make and could be a good compromise.</p><p></p><p>The alternative - let him go without, but make it clear that he has to own any consequences. So if he is 'caught out' say, in school changeroom or with torn trousers that leave nothing to the imagination, he has to put up with the embarrassment. One big argument in favour of wearing underwear - zippers. I gather it is painful to catch your 'pink bits' in the zip.</p><p></p><p>Discussion is the key. Surely he will talk if you give him the chance? Just ask him to explain why, tell him you will take it on board and try to think of a solution that will keep you both happy. Encourage him to also think of possible solutions. This is an important technique to teach him. The important thing here isn;'t you getting what you want, or him getting what he wants, but both of you learning how to work towards compromise.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 372454, member: 1991"] Part of Collaborative Problem Solving involves you talking to him, but another big part involves him talking to you. It should be discussion and compromise. What does he say about his reasons for not wanting to wear underwear? I remember having the opportunity to buy some pure silk boxers for difficult child 1. He loved them because they gave him the sense of freedom, but he was still decently covered. Other good fabrics are cotton jersey, synthetic silky fabrics, lightweight cheesecloth-type fabric. Boxer shorts are simple to make and could be a good compromise. The alternative - let him go without, but make it clear that he has to own any consequences. So if he is 'caught out' say, in school changeroom or with torn trousers that leave nothing to the imagination, he has to put up with the embarrassment. One big argument in favour of wearing underwear - zippers. I gather it is painful to catch your 'pink bits' in the zip. Discussion is the key. Surely he will talk if you give him the chance? Just ask him to explain why, tell him you will take it on board and try to think of a solution that will keep you both happy. Encourage him to also think of possible solutions. This is an important technique to teach him. The important thing here isn;'t you getting what you want, or him getting what he wants, but both of you learning how to work towards compromise. Marg [/QUOTE]
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