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bran155
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I am trying so hard to do what all of you as well as my sw has advised me to do. I am ignoring my difficult child. She is trying hard to get a reaction out of me. I have been able to ignore it for the past couple of days. Big improvement on my part. As you all know I usually fall right into the madness.
First of all, she never comes home. She barely even sleeps home anymore. Sad to say but it is much more peaceful and I am enjoying her not being here. Even though I am very nervous about what she is doing and where she has been staying. She came home last night 10 minutes before the door was to be locked, went right to bed and left as soon as she woke up this morning. While she was getting dressed she began trying to reel me in. She kept repeating, "I gotta go, got business to take care of", over and over again, waiting for me to go into mom mode and start the interrogation. Never happened!!! It was very hard for me to ignore her, I was actually biting my lip to keep from opening my mouth!!! She asked me for money, I of course said no and then she said "that's okay I have mad money, I don't need yours" Okay, so why are you asking me for it!!! I didn't say that to her though. She is not used to me not engaging. Before she left she then said again, "I got business to take care of mom", this time she added the word mom, she so badly wanted a response from me. Didn't get one though. Finally, she asked me for money again, again I said no, she then replied again, "I don't need your money, I am gettin my own, I got business in the works". I said "great then go take care of your business and stop asking me for my money" I told her I loved her and to have a good day.
I am so proud of myself!!!! Although it was hard for me to keep my big mouth shut, it feels really good not to let her bait me. Of course, it is killing me inside, I want to know what the hell this kid is getting herself into. I know at this point there isn't anything I can do about it though. I am so worried about her. I just know I will be getting a call from the police very soon. If she gets arrested, she is so on her own as I absolutely WILL NOT bail her out. She is making these choices on her own so she can deal with the consequences on her own.
Just wanted to brag about my strength today!!!! lol
Thank you guys for the advice - it's working.
First of all, she never comes home. She barely even sleeps home anymore. Sad to say but it is much more peaceful and I am enjoying her not being here. Even though I am very nervous about what she is doing and where she has been staying. She came home last night 10 minutes before the door was to be locked, went right to bed and left as soon as she woke up this morning. While she was getting dressed she began trying to reel me in. She kept repeating, "I gotta go, got business to take care of", over and over again, waiting for me to go into mom mode and start the interrogation. Never happened!!! It was very hard for me to ignore her, I was actually biting my lip to keep from opening my mouth!!! She asked me for money, I of course said no and then she said "that's okay I have mad money, I don't need yours" Okay, so why are you asking me for it!!! I didn't say that to her though. She is not used to me not engaging. Before she left she then said again, "I got business to take care of mom", this time she added the word mom, she so badly wanted a response from me. Didn't get one though. Finally, she asked me for money again, again I said no, she then replied again, "I don't need your money, I am gettin my own, I got business in the works". I said "great then go take care of your business and stop asking me for my money" I told her I loved her and to have a good day.
I am so proud of myself!!!! Although it was hard for me to keep my big mouth shut, it feels really good not to let her bait me. Of course, it is killing me inside, I want to know what the hell this kid is getting herself into. I know at this point there isn't anything I can do about it though. I am so worried about her. I just know I will be getting a call from the police very soon. If she gets arrested, she is so on her own as I absolutely WILL NOT bail her out. She is making these choices on her own so she can deal with the consequences on her own.
Just wanted to brag about my strength today!!!! lol
Thank you guys for the advice - it's working.